When did your LO stop waking up at the end of every sleep cycle (without sleep training)

[Marghe87]

Or better... when did they stop calling for you at the end of every sleep cycle? :)
DD is 5 months and has been goinf through a sleep regression for weeks.
She falls asleep around 7pm, sleep through one short cycle (about 40 min) and then wakes up crying. Then keeps waking up pretty much every two hours up until morning (I think sleep cycles get longer at night hence the 2 hours).

I know the key to succeed is supposed to be putting them down awake but so far this has proven IMPOSSIBLE with DD. I hope it might improve when she is older but right now she is bfed to sleep most nights.

When did your LOs sleep start consolidating? Did you do anything to make it happen? I am interested in hearing from those who didn’t sleep train - thank you!

@Marghe87 you are not failing! You are doing your absolute best to help your child sleep. You’re not doing anything wrong. It sounds like your LO is in the midst of a regression that will eventually end. Mine was awful...then he got better...now he’s awful again (but slightly less awful this time) and will get better again. Some babies sleep, and some don’t. You can take advice and tips from other people and that might help. There a lots of great suggestions on this thread. But if they don’t help, that also doesn’t mean you’ve failed! Some babies are just bad sleepers! Unfortunately you might need to just ride it out. It will get better! Don’t let it get you down 💪🏼

I have absolutely no idea what sleep training is and to be honest I've never read up about either for fear of it being truly awful and setting me off crying again... Does the crying ever stop once you've had a baby?
My baby is 8 months old and has slept through every night from between 6pm and 7pm till between 5 and 6am from being about 3 months old.
The only thing we did was keep him with us at all times. We had the moses basket downstairs and then when he outgrew that he went into a travel cot in the lounge. When it was our bedtime we took him up with us and popped him in his cot at the side of our bed. We would dream feed at the point when we went to bed somewhere between 10 and 11pm, at about 6 months old we cut that out too.
At around 6pm we would bath and give last feed before bed then it was into moses basket or travel cot and that is where he would stay. He would wake up and actively look for us, once he had found us he would snuggle back down and go back to sleep or sometimes he would want a cuddle and then settle back down.
I have no idea whether this actually helped with his sleep now or not but I really do think it did, he was never alone so I think that was comforting. When we moved his cot into his room we left him in it for a few minutes and he was happy playing, then he cried out for us and we went straight in. We did that a couple of times and by the night time he had his bath and supper and dropped right off. He wakes up every couple of hours as we all do but usually without much drama. There have been a few times when he has started screaming quite early on in the evening over the last 2 months but doesn't seem to wake up and we cuddle him and he settles back down to sleep, someone told me they could be night terrors but that seems to have settled too. He runs to his own beat and we've never tried to stop it. Sometimes he takes a danger nap an hour before bed and stays up and hour later, this is also OK. The only person who truly knows what he needs and when is him so we've been constantly flexible with when things happen. A friend of mine said this is an actual parenting approach and is called gentle parenting... I didn't read up about that either. We've never let him cry either. He shows his dissatisfaction with something with the bottom lip and it strikes fear into my very core so things get fixed immediately! I have no idea whether that has helped.
I'm sorry I can't give you any solid we did this and this happened, we just let him dictate and went from there.
People used to laugh at me and say I was making a rod for my own back by not putting him upstairs at night and not letting him cry sometimes but he's seriously happy and always has been so maybe that's why he sleeps.

@Justriseaboveitkiddo you are very lucky... we do the exact same thing with our DD, always next to her but it doesn’t work for her I’m afraid.
Enjoy your good sleeer, you have gold in your hands! :D

Have a look at Lyndsey Hookway on instagram, she's very helpful on what's actually normal sleep, normal length of nap and how to tweak things without it being disrespectful to your child