Parenting during Covid- AARGGGHHHHH

[Noshowlomo]

I have had enough! This week I’ve hit peak WANT TO RUN AWAY.
My boy is lovely, happy etc but f me I am sick of groundhog life.
I think of what life would be like if I had no children and think of the lie ins and just time to be me, but everything is so monotonous and then I think he’s somehow being mentally damaged because he can’t see anyone or interact. The terrible twos have started.
I know that EVERYONE is taking a hit now, whether you have kids or not, but my god the urge to run away is strong this week. Is rum allowed for breakfast???
Not really looking for responses, just wanting to put it out there I suppose.
I want to run away to LA and lie on Santa Monica beach and then drink wine in the bars in the evening, enjoy long lie ins, hikes, amazing food...
Anyone else want to run away? If so where to and what would you do?

I have 1 year old but a colleague of mine in dactyl the same job has no kids. The monotony is getting to them worse than me, at least we have something to focus on and the unpredictability of their behaviour. The colleague has started drinking to dull the monotony.

I'm getting awful mum guilt about how little interaction mine is getting with other children her age. Hopefully the weather will improve a bit and we will have more options.

I'm also hanging on for the better weather! My 18 mo goes to nursery 3 days a week (we both work) and I have never enjoyed my job as much as I do just now.

I dream of running away to a 5 star spa hotel. I would sit around a pool all day in my fluffy dressing gown, have occasional treatment and enjoy being waited on hand and foot! I would also read trashy magazines and spend the evenings in my room eating room service and watching crap telly.

I could have written this!
I feel like I’m descending into a quiet madness!
I’m homeschooling, have a toddler and my DH is in bed with COVID isolating. He normally works long hours - but this is no adult conversation.
I’m on furlough but have this pressure to do work which I’m tying to ignore and despite telling my boss my current situation, messaged me two days after I told them my DH was really ill and obviously have no childcare options asked when we could rearrange a meeting I cancelled, I’m on furlough!!! F**k off! I do want a job to go back to so happy to do a little under normal circumstances but with the added stress of COVID in my house I don’t need the pressure!

@SnuggyBuggy

I'm getting awful mum guilt about how little interaction mine is getting with other children her age. Hopefully the weather will improve a bit and we will have more options.

Me too. My little boy has spent half his life in lockdown now and I am so so bored. I’ve ran out of enthusiasm for crafts and homemade games. I’m bored. I’m tired (pregnant with number 2), I don’t have a childcare bubble, I’m so sad for him and all the friendships and interaction he’s missing out on. This morning we’ve been to feed the ducks and sat on a gate by the roadside calling to sheep in a field. Then it occurred to me because I’ve driven there it was probably a rule breaking exercise (we live v remotely and need to drive to get into the village). Is this life... really? It feels like I’m in solitary confinement.

I’m glad I’m not alone but fuck it’s hard. My son has just decided he doesn’t like his cot duvet so screamed until we got rid of it and now he’s covered in a really thin blanket as it’s all he likes!
When is the next plane to LAX???

We’re just about managing here, my son is five so can entertain himself safely for 5-10 minutes.

Work finally caved and gave some flexibility, so I ‘homeschool’ on Monday, Tuesday and Friday, my partner does Thursday and our childcare bubble do Wednesday.

We have covid at the minute, I’ve had it quite bad so far so a lot of childcare has been down to my partner. Its not far on him and it means I haven’t spent enough quality time with my son this week. I didn’t see him at all on Thursday or Friday as I didn’t even leave my bedroom.

Luckily we are a very outdoor family, so when we’re not in isolation we always go out no matter the weather. That has really helped our sanity, its also a good way to give my partner plenty of time away from my son. My isolatin ends on Tuesday but I get so out of breath I don’t think I’ll make it further than the flat for a while, but at least it means my son can go to the park when my partner isn’t working.

I am enjoying being at home more, but once my son is in bed I tend to be essentially counting down until I can go to sleep. I have started to learn to crochet, so that keeps me busy.

It’s bloody hard going, wine and coffee all round. DH and I have gotten into a routine with 3yo DD and we’re managing but it’s taking every ounce of my patience and I wish I could offer her more social interaction than she currently gets. Also, crafting can get to fuck.

Thankfully my 2 year old can go to the childminder for part of the week but I'm so jealous of child-free friends. I start drinking at lunchtime on the weekend now to try and make it interesting because there's sod all else to do.

It’s soooooo tedious isn’t it. Thankfully I work 4 days so my daughter is in childcare...I spend all weekend stressed at work, looking forward to the weekend, then the 3 day weekend arrives and....dull. Dull dull dull. We go out every day, even in the rain, our trip to the park in the drizzle yesterday was the peak of enjoyment 🤨 the monotony is endless.

6 and 4 year old here so bit easier than toddlers, but pressure of lessons, proper timetable, work to upload for teachers, combined with wfh is really hideous. 4 year old distracts 6 yr old, both distract me, i have to do all my non meeting work in the evenings so i can spend some time with them in the day. Hideous!!

I will join you on that plane to LAX. I will say though that I no longer have the Sunday night fear of work on a Monday. Instead I just look forward to some peace and quiet.

15 month old here. Groundhog day every day, am starting to feel quite depressed tbh. You aren’t alone, I miss my old life desperately.

2 year old and a baby here, I would run away to my mums house 😂. Too far away for the under 1 bubble, sadly

I’ll join you on the plane too! I dream almost nightly that I’m sat in Boa eating their amazing truffle cheese fries with a nice cold Stella 😂

I read something today where someone said they feel like they’re living the exact same day each day.

That feels exactly right.

Oh yes hotels fluffy towels and pools please!

I also have horrible mum guilt mainly because I have no patience at the moment for my 3 year old and I’m struggling to fill the days. We bake, paint, get the playdoh out and it’s 10am....

Working from home and unable to be furloughed is tough and she can do stints on her own or in front of tv but again I feel awful for her having so much screen time.

I’ve got to the point now where I don’t even remember what we did before!!

I hear you but having my baby 6 months ago has saved this last year for me. I feel gutted we can’t do all the things we would do it it wasn’t for COVID but she certainly keeps us busy and living in the moment