CAO - 3 Month old baby

[Tinkerbell2030]

Hey all,

Need some advice. Split up with partner due to DV incident a few weeks ago, police called etc. I have tried to arrange contact in a contact centre meanwhile and he refuses. Wants to have unsupervised in his home, then decide with independent SW. I’m insisting contact centre then gradually build up to unsupervised. Refuses everything and would like to go down the CAO route. First baby, could anyone give me an idea what to expect. Whats the chances of 50/50 or him getting custody? I felt so brave finally leaving but I guess this is not the end.

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@Thatwentbadly Needed that - Thank you :)

Definitely go down the legal route if he's abusive otherwise he'll always use child contact as a means of control/continued abuse. I say this from experience! Good luck, and well done so far!

Generally baby stays with primary career majority of the time until school age as it's j no it good for them to be passed about between houses.

Get a solicitor anyway and focus on safeguarding yourself and the child as a priority. You don't have to offer contact, let him do the legwork but he will use this to try and control you further.

@YoBeaches Ah ok, could you give me some more examples of safeguarding. I’m looking to move home, house has cameras, fire proofing.