Can anyone check through my baby's day pls?

[KarensNotMyName]

...and let me know what I can do better or where I'm going wrong please? I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed as a new mum, constantly checking websites to see how to organise baby's day and no-one to ask in real life. HV appointments were all stopped due to Covid. My mum is 70+ and constantly wags her finger at my choices, thinks baby should only need 3 large bottles a day, substantial meals from 4 months, and that I apparently slept in my own room from birth without waking up

So could someone sensible with recent experience of having a 6-7 month old please advise me? I am worried I'm doing feeding, weaning and naps all wrong.

She is 6.5 months and bottle formula fed. Been weaning since 1st Jan.

7-7.30am wake up & bottle
8.30/9am breakfast
9/9.30am Nap (30 mins)*
11/11.30am bottle
12/12.30 lunch
1.00pm Nap (normally 75-90 mins)*
2.30pm bottle
4/4.30pm nap (30 mins)*
4.30pm bottle
5/5.30pm dinner
6.15-6.30 bath, bottle (8 ounces), bed
Bottle feed at 11pm (7ounces)
Bottle feed at 4am (7 ounces)

*she always wakes up after 30 mins. At lunch I am managing to elongate the nap but haven't managed on the morning.

Day bottle feeds vary from 3-4 ounces to max 7 ounces.

Thank you!

I think we as mums always worry we are doing it wrong. Do you feel that some of it is not right or not working, or is it just what your mum says?

that I apparently slept in my own room from birth without waking up my mum was adament that I was sleeping through the night before she even left hospital 😂 Needless to say I dont believe her!

I forgot to add, I've read about transitioning to the 2,3,4 routine with longer gaps between naps as the day progresses, but, my baby is so shattered by the end of the day and her last awake windows is fairly short.

I don't know. There's a lot of crying at the moment but I don't know if that's just growth spurt or teething.

I also worry she's not sleeping through the night.

I'm trying to ignore my mum!

My mum is 70+ and constantly wags her finger at my choices, thinks baby should only need 3 large bottles a day, substantial meals from 4 months, and that I apparently slept in my own room from birth without waking up

Well most of baby's nutrients still come from milk for a long time. At 6 months baby is just learning to eat.
And of course we know that children should be in with parents until 6 months now.
Just smile and nod because her advice goes against guidelines, collected from medical professionals.

Baby's routine seems fine, maybe push the naps a bit later, 10am and 2pm for example. I think mine both went down to 2 naps at 6 months.

That looks perfect for 6.5 months.

My daughter is 9 months and it took until about 8 months for her to really start to reduce milk feeds- same for the 2-3 nap transition, she’s still a bit young for 2 naps a day at the moment.

She’s my 5th baby so I’ve got something to compare it to but it I really, really feel for you having a first baby during this. It’s so much harder than normal times.

Oh wow, thanks @CalmDownBoris72 that's kind. It's nice to hear as I do feel very isolated at the moment and never know if I'm doing things right! Well done for having 5 - you're brave indeed!

I think your routine sounds great, very similar to my DD at almost 9 months (minus the 3rd nap). I dropped the 3rd nap at 7 months and she started sleeping longer for her 2 naps after a couple of days.

My DD still doesn’t sleep through the night so I wouldn’t worry about that!

Leave yourself some wriggle room otherwise you're going to feel like you're failing if one of these steps gets knocked out of whack. babies are always changing, take your cues from her, you're doing fine

I have a 7 1/2 month old and it sounds so similar to our day! Those day milk feeds are tricky now they’re eating real food aren’t they! Just do you and follow baby’s lead, you can’t force them to eat or sleep I say. I’m jealous of your 7:30am wake ups though

If it works for you, why should we, who don't know your baby, suggest changes.

and waking in the night is normal.

Well done, you have a normal baby and you're doing great

PS I constantly feel like I’m doing it wrong too! But we all get through the day despite how ever long she naps for or how much she eats and it’s never too disastrous so I couldn’t really want for any more x

My now 13 month old didn't sleep half as much and he was weaned from 4.5 months. He was pretty much on our food from 6/7 months. He's my third and he's brillaint

He goes to bed at 6.15 - his choice and sleeps through he's so lazy and gets a good nights sleep so he's woke up by the other kids around 8 am

But it's genuinely your choice I don't think your doing anything wrong. With my first I was so by the book with weaning. By number 3 you just know when their ready 🤣 he was so hungry so made sence start that but earlier.
Your doing fine. Trust yourself xx

It looks great OP! The only thing I'd say is that they dont have to be on 3 meals a day straight away. If you are finding weaning tricky or too time consuming you could always go down to two meals for now. But if its no bother to you then keep them as they are!

Thanks for the tips and reassurance!

Looks spot on. Ignore your mother!

Looks absolutely fine to me.