Anyone decide to have one then had another?

[mumma90]

I'm in the fence deciding to have another child. My DD is now 2.

Wondering if anyone else struggled with this and then took the plunge...
What was it like having your second compared to your first?
How do you balance everything when it seems one is tough enough
..and how does it impact your relationship with your other half?

Thanks 😊

Up until my DD was up 18-20 months I felt that I was happy with just one then something clicked and I just had that urge for a second. I now have a nearly 4 year old and nearly 1 year old. For me the transition from 1 to 2 was much easier than 0 to 1 children; the first few weeks were particularly tough but as both have got older it’s got a bit easier especially with my older one becoming more grown up and having the time she’s at nursery with the baby.
DH and I really struggled with the transition to becoming parents but it’s not been so bad this time; we’re used to being parents and at times the sleep deprivation has made us snappy but we know it won’t last forever.

Me and DH were initially adamant we’d only have one but when our son hit about 15months old I got the craving for another. It took a while to talk my husband around and ultimately the age gap between them is 3.5 years.

Having a second was 100% the best decision we made - the amount of love and joy our second baby bought into our house, on top of the love and joy that was already present because of our first son just made life seem perfect.

It’s so cliche, but it felt like we had completed our family.

Our two children have the most wonderful relationship, they are inseparable and adore each other. When I see what a wonderful bond they have it just reinforces to me that having a second baby was absolutely the right thing to do.

Mine and my husband’s relationship strengthened for some reason after baby number 2 came along.....it just felt like we had the perfect life.

Having the second was definitely easier than having the first because parenting wasn’t a new phenomena to me so I just get on with it and the baby really did just slip into our life.

When I started getting desires for a 3rd baby my husband went and had a vasectomy

I got pregnant when my first was only 5 months old and the first year of having two was hard. There was enough to go around for both though and they are so close now it's almost like having twins. I would say there are pluses and minuses about small/larger gaps but having two is easier than one imo as they entertain each other now they're older.
I was an only child and demanded a lot of attention from my parents, they also had to take another child on holiday to keep me happy.
So probably harder to begin with but you reap the benefits later on. Good luck!

I'm in a similar predicament OP. My DD is 2.5 - feel completely torn!

@bytheby what makes you go 50 : 50 on having another?

I came close to wanting another after deciding I was one and done. Very close. But there’s too much of an age gap now. She’s nearly 4 so would be at least getting on for 5 - no chance of them being playmates or having anything in common until adulthood and maybe not even then.

I have one and when I'm questioned about having another its a hard no. I love my child and I simply don't want another. It's hard work, I want to look forward to a decent lay in in about 8 years (yikes...) and I don't want most of my money going towards childcare. I would say if you're not sure, don't do it because you literally can't take it back!

Everybody on earth that has more than one child 🤔