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Help! 2 year old still having 3 bottles of milk at night

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Jblue · 25/01/2021 15:27

Help! So my daughter turned 2 in October, she has a milk when she goes to bed around 7.30/8ish, she will then wake for a bottle when we go to bed around 11, and then again around 3am. Some nights she then wants another one at 5.30. Before waking at 7.30/8ish. She doesn't have milk during the day other than is cereal.

It doesn't bother me getting up and making the milk because im such a bad sleeper at the moment. But we have another baby due in 10 weeks, and I dont want to be up constantly during the night feeding!

She eats alot during the day and I've tried giving her porridge before bed ans it still doesn't change anything. I've tried watering down milk or giving her a smaller quantity and she will then just wake up more frequently. She even said to me at 3am that she was hungry. I've given her water instead, which didn't go down well!

Its worth to note that my daughter has never gone longer than 5 hours without a milk at night, she was born prematurely and had to have a special formula and set feed times to ensure her growth was on track. You would have no idea now what she went through, shes very advanced for her age and is bigger than her cousin who is also 2.
I spoke to a health visitor at her 2 year appointment, and they didn't quite know what to do. And said its up to be what battles I choose.

Has anyone else gone through this?? I wanted to know whether she will slowly stop wanting milk at night??

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Mrsjayy · 25/01/2021 15:53

Everybody is right you just need to get rid of the bottles all together get her a sports bottle give her milk then water during the night she will get bored of asking for water.

unicornparty · 25/01/2021 15:54

Cold turkey, good luck op.

Mrsjayy · 25/01/2021 15:55

Milk during the night from a bottle isn't great for her teeth either.

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SmileyClare · 25/01/2021 15:55

If you are worried she is gaining too much weight, then it's fine to switch to semi skimmed milk now. She won't need full fat and it'll still give her the calcium and vitamins she needs... in her cup mind.

Good luck, if you can make giving up bottles at all "fun" with rewards, lots of praise then go with that. She shouldn't feel like this is a punishment.

Jblue · 25/01/2021 15:58

Thank you everyone, she does only have milk in a bottle.
She has a munchkin sippy cup throughout the day with water in which she drinks from. I do have another beaker she could have with water in her bedroom to have at night.

And I was also told by doctors to keep giving her milk up until 2 years of age, which is what they assess her too, which is why I've been reluctant to do this before. But I know it needs to be done!

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Jblue · 25/01/2021 15:59

And just to say about weight, she is not chunky at all, she's a very active child, so I know its not effecting her weight at all.

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Marilla1966 · 25/01/2021 16:00

We went cold turkey at 2 years old. The first night was awful. She worked herself up so much she could barely breathe but I (my husband😂) held strong and refused. Next night she accepted it with no problem and drank the water we left in a no spill cup. Good luck! X

Mrsjayy · 25/01/2021 16:02

I would break the teat/s say aww it's broken and then switch to her new fancy cup be brave she will be fine Smile

mistermagpie · 25/01/2021 16:03

Yep just stop. My DS was still having a bottle in the night when he was two and suddenly we were like WHAT ARE WE DOING?! He wasn't my first baby either and my first never had a bottle past age 1, but there you go.

Anyway, cold turkey. The first couple of nights weren't fun but within a week he was sleeping through the night pretty much. Wish I'd done it sooner.

GameSetMatch · 25/01/2021 16:03

You give her milk to go to sleep with so now she’s trained herself to need a bottle of milk before she can go back to sleep whatever the time, she needs to learn to go to sleep with no ‘crutch’ it’s just about teaching her.

No milk before bed and if she wakes in the night a sip of water and straight back in her bed.

BingBongToTheMoon · 25/01/2021 16:05

And I was also told by doctors to keep giving her milk up until 2 years of age

Yes, but they probably meant in a cup after 12 months corrected,

whenthestarsgoblue · 25/01/2021 16:07

Yep just stop completely. Ditch the bottles too, no good for teeth xx

nimbuscloud · 25/01/2021 16:07

Google ‘baby bottle mouth’. The pictures will help you to keep resolute when’s she’s screaming for milk at 3am.

movingonup20 · 25/01/2021 16:14

We used a 6oz cup rather than bottle at bed time and only water after that point until breakfast. I was breastfeeding until that point through the night so it was cold Turkey and exh was in charge of settling her

Thatwentbadly · 25/01/2021 16:20

If you have another baby coming along very soon they DH needs to start doing at least 50% of night time wake ups with your toddler so it’s not a huge shock when they new baby arrives and he has to start doing all the night wakes up with her.

20viona · 25/01/2021 16:29

Wow cold Turkey. I salute you I really don't know how you've maintained this level of interrupted sleep for so long and pregnant too!

Ditch the bottles.

Beamur · 25/01/2021 16:32

A friend of mine 'cured' her kids of bedtime bottles by giving goat milk. It's very similar to cow's milk but has a stronger flavour. Child decided they didn't need milk at bedtime anymore Wink

SmileyClare · 25/01/2021 16:37

I think it's difficult when you have a poorly premature baby, who needs feeding up, to switch out of that mindset?

My sister's daughter had to be fed at set regular intervals when she was a prem baby. It was very traumatic for my sister, and was so important that she was fed well and put on weight. My sister still sort of has that attitude towards feeding her now she's 3 and very healthy, in fact bigger than lots of her age group!

It seems like when you weaned your dd onto solids you didn't actually wean her off regular milk? Anyway, it's not too late to start this now. I think she'll adapt to it quite quickly. Fingers crossed Smile

Ohalrightthen · 25/01/2021 18:48

3 bottles overnight will be damaging her teeth. Just stop.

CottonSock · 25/01/2021 18:52

Good luck. Stay strong. You need sleep. She needs her teeth

SmileyClare · 25/01/2021 20:01

Yeah good luck Op. It will be worth persevering for a few nights. I would go with making the transition as easy for you and dd as you can; so lots of extra comforting, still going into her room at first to give her reassurance because she's been using her bottle as a comfort and to get to sleep.

I'm also a fan of lots of rewards and toddlers respond very well to bribery, nothing wrong with that as a means to an end! A new toy or something for being a big brave girl.

Your experience is slightly unusual in that you had a traumatic time with her as a premmie and had it drummed into you the importance of regular milk feeds. I'm sure that's stayed with you. Flowers

Young children adapt surprisingly quickly to changes like this so don't feel worried that you're traumatizing her at first if she's upset. She will bounce back quickly and it will help her (and you) to have less broken sleep.

SmileyClare · 28/01/2021 20:58

How are you getting on Op? Have you made any progress? Smile

justanotherneighinparadise · 28/01/2021 21:04

Yep. This is terrible for her teeth.

Jblue · 28/01/2021 22:48

Thank you all for your comments! Last night was the first night (have 4 days off work!) And she did amazingly well! Stirred a little ar 1am, but settled herself, got a bit upset at 4am, but I laid in her bed with her until she fell into a deep sleep, and then she slept through till 8.30am!!

Fingers crossed tonight goes just as well!!

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SmileyClare · 29/01/2021 07:32

That's brilliant Smile There might be a few wobbles but she's taking it really well.

Best wishes for your new baby too.