Feeling sorry for myself

[StrangerThings85]

Hi,

I've got a 7 month old boy, I love him dearly but my god being a mother is hard. We've been struggling with early rising lately, I get up with baba on weekdays whilst hubby sleeps for work. Typically, his 2 mornings at the weekend to get up and baba sleeps past 6am! This morning he woke at 4:30am and I think it's just broken me. I shooed my husband away when he saw me sobbing before and now he's in a huff. But I just don't want to hear "you're doing great", "it's a phase", "it could be worse" because hearing all of that makes me feel even worse. I sobbed none stop for an hour and a half. I just don't think he gets it, men get off very lightly in terms of parenthood. Don't get me wrong he's great and does his fair share but it's not the same as being a mother and I think it just overwhelms me. I'm just having one of those days where all I want to do is escape, eat chocolate and feel sorry for myself whilst watching Netflix

When my children woke that early, I didn't see it as early rising...because 4.30am is NOT daytime.

So I treated it exactly as though they'd woken up at midnight. Nappy change, drink and back to bed. No chatting, nothing fun....no real interaction at all apart from necessary holding.

If you let them get up at 430 am then of course they'll get up...and then go off to lovely sleep a couple of hours later when you're wide awake.

Nope! Change the baby etc and straight back into his cot.

Agree with @FortunesFave baby back in cot, rock to sleep if necessary

I feel your pain. My 8.5 month DD woke at 4am today too and has been for about 3 or 4 days.. usually I’d been trying to resettle but it hasn’t been working so I decided to give her a feed and put her back to sleep and lo and behold, she went straight back to sleep until 7:30. She hasn’t had night feeds for a while now so that’s why I’ve been reluctant to feed her but apparently she was actually hungry cause she drank 6oz so I’m gonna start treating it as a night waking from now on.

Why are you shooing your husband away!? Let him help you!

Don’t be a martyr! Take advantage of your husband being there to help. When he’s around, give him the baby and rest.

I also agree with PPs - pit the baby back to bed after the 4:30am wake.

Yup treat as a night wake, quiet, no fuss, feed if needed and back to bed.