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Partner helps with nothing

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William2007c · 20/01/2021 19:47

rant alert

My partner helps with absolutely nothing... we have a 10 month old, he works full time I work part time, he works 9-5 mon - Friday I work 8-4 Monday - Wednesday
I have a brain condition which has been out of control since November, I'm in and out of hospital getting fluid drained from my brain, different tablets, daily headaches my vision is decreasing I'm absolutely exhausted!

I do all the night feeds, sometimes our daughter can be up for hours in the middle of the night, we have no childcare due to covid so I work in the living room, he works in a call centre so he's in the office out the way, Monday to Wednesday I work whilst looking after our daughter, I'm supposed to finish at 4 but with having no childcare sometimes I'm working at 11pm to get my work finished, I do all the cleaning absolutely everything,he does nothing, when he's finished work he goes for a bath ( he has 2 baths a day ) then spends an hour playing darts, I'm lucky if I have the chance to get washed once a week, by the time he's finished in his bath and playing darts my daughter is in bed, I can't do it anymore, anytime I ask for help I get shouted at, called controlling I'm sick of it

My daughter woke up at 2.30am the other night and was awake till 6am, at about 5 I went into ask him for help as my head was splitting and I was working in the morning and he told me to F off he was sleeping...
I'm thinking of kicking him out

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Aquamarine1029 · 20/01/2021 19:52

Stop thinking about kicking him out and do it. He's useless. Make him leave tonight.

Aimee1987 · 20/01/2021 19:55

Kick him out. He is useless this is not how a partner or parent should behave.

BrutusMcDogface · 20/01/2021 19:55

Omg, definitely kick him out!

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Mollymarvelous · 20/01/2021 19:56

It doesn’t sound like he respects you and everything you do . So sorry to hear you have been unwell , he should be bending over backwards to look after you.

It’s not what you want to do at this time in your life but this does appear to be someone you want to spend more years with. Do you have family or parents nearby that could help you instead

Mollymarvelous · 20/01/2021 19:57

*does not appear to be someone you want to spend your life with !! Typo

negomi90 · 20/01/2021 19:59

Stop thinking about kicking him out, and kick him out.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 20/01/2021 20:02

Agree that he doesn't seem to care about you or your LO and given everything you've gone through in the last year that he's likely to step up now.

Can I just say too that's it's not helping, he isn't helping to look after the home or helping to look after his baby, it's what he should be doing without being asked.

If you're thinking of kicking him out, what's stopped you so far?

Gncq · 20/01/2021 20:04

2 baths a day?
I'd kick him out over the waste of water alone.

He sounds horrible.

Your brain condition sounds incredibly hard too, I hope you have extended family support?

YRGAM · 20/01/2021 20:20

You know what you need to do.

Queenoftheashes · 20/01/2021 20:23

Yeah kick him out. He couldn't give a shit about you; he thinks you're his maid.

myhobby · 20/01/2021 20:31

"I'm lucky if I have the chance to get washed once a week"

Seriously? Do not ever put up with this! What a loser he is. And it's not "helping" whenever a man does jobs around the house. It's equally your responsibility as adults, raise your standards.

Sillybilly35 · 20/01/2021 20:57

Stop thinking and do it. He doesn't give a fuck about you, Harsh but true. It should be a partnership but you are doing it solo. It's not fair. You will be 100% happier on your own. Flowers

Terracottasaur · 21/01/2021 10:18

Time to act. He’s a lazy, disrespectful bastard and a bad father. Your life will be easier without him.

AnotherBoredOne · 21/01/2021 10:23

Don't pit up with this any longer. He sorts himself out and joins the family abs starts helping or he leaves.

crazychemist · 21/01/2021 12:48

Kick him out. Do you have family to help you? Can you stay with someone?

JiltedJohnsJulie · 21/01/2021 15:36

How are you today @William2007c?

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