Help! 8 week old fell onto carpet

[Dionne12]

I am currently feeling terrible I. Tears. My 8 week old bot has fallen from the sofa on to a carpeted floor.
It is completely my fault, I dozed off whilst feeding and next thing I hear is a thud. I picked him up straightaway, he cried for a minute or 2 and then fell asleep.
I have checked him over, no bumps or any signs of injury. He woke up once to feed and fell asleep again.
I know I am completely at fault. Should I take him to a&e to be checked? Or call my GP?
I feel like the worst parent.

@Dionne12 you poor thing, this is so easily done. The amount of times I've fallen asleep with my baby on me either in bed or on the sofa, and luckily he's been fine, but every time I think about how dangerous it was. But the exhaustion is so real, my baby is now 10 weeks.
I would probably call 111 to get advice seeing as he is ok but because he has had a bump I would persoanlly get him checked. I know you feel awful but wouldn't you rather then put it out of your mind knowing he has been checked over and is fine.

I would get him checked too OP, just fir peace of mind.

@biscuit13 thank you. I have called 11 l1 who have advised me to keep an eye on him. Thankfully he seems his usual self. No physical injuries, feeding as normal no vomiting or unusual behaviour.
I just can’t believe this happened. I feel like a terrible parent. I know I’ll be judged by my HV. I can’t stop crying, my poor baby.
Will the HV report this to social services? I’m scared

We've all had similar things happen. There is no way you'll be reported for this and even if you were, SS are going to do nothing about it. You're just a tired Mum who had an accident.

Please don't worry

Try to get a nap today too @Dionne and something nice fir lunch. It might help you feel a bit better

You poor thing. It is easily done- do you have a moses basket or something you can keep next to the sofa? Try and pop baby in as soon as you feel sleepy (easier said than done). I almost dropped my numerous times as babies so know how that exhaustion feels.

@JiltedJohnsJulie thank you so much. I think I needed to cry it out.

Honestly we have all had mishaps at times with our kids. You are not a terrible mother. Really ! I know the guilt is terrible and you will feel a bit nervous and shaky for a while until you get your confidence back. But really don't beat yourself up any more x

@Crowsandshivers I do have a Moses basket placed next to the sofa, which makes what happened harder to deal with.
It usually takes a while to burp my baby after feeding which is when I dozed off. Not that it excuses anything.
I’m so angry at myself and hurting for my poor baby. I feel as though I’ve failed him

Falling that distance really should be ok

Make sure you’re positioned carefully when you’re feeding so that he can’t go anywhere if you fall asleep. I’m thinking that if he had gone more down the side of the sofa then it’s a SIDS risk.
Falling off a bed or a sofa is something most of us go through

Oh op try not to feel to bad we have all done things like this.

You are not a bad mother you are exhausted with a tiny baby.

My middle child rolled off our bed once - they weren't rolling yet (or so I thought) - turned my back for a second to get something out of a draw next thing I knew baby on the floor crying. I felt terrible about it but they were fine just like your baby is fine.

Please try not to beat yourself up about it.

He’s most likely fine OP, but I would get him checked for reassurance.

I find it easier to stand to burp my baby, otherwise I would be in danger of falling asleep too. It’s a pain when they take an age to burp, but I actually find the burping comes quicker when I stand and shoogle anyway.

Hope you’re both ok

You are not a bad mother!

Hope you’re both ok now.

I don't think there is a single parent who hasn't dropped their baby or allowed them to roll off something or some other mishap.

DD once rolled off the bed whilst I was in the bathroom and then repeatedly lifted her head, smacking it on the underside. She's 14 and fine :)

If it makes you feel better, i dropped a tablet on my eldest trying to take a photo with it. This was nearly 9 years ago and tablets were a fair bit chunkier.
My youngest also rolled off the bed and hit the floor when I was unaware he had learnt to roll. And I went over a very low wall whilst wearing him in a carrier outside our local family centre. Thought it must have killed him, but trip to A&E and he was fine. I however, ached for days and still get cold sweats thinking of it.

What i am trying to say is that babies are surprisingly robust, everyone drops or bumps baby at some point. Please be kind and dont beat yourself up. You are doing great and congratulations on your lovely baby 👶

Oh OP, I don't know a single parent who hasn't done similar at some point.

I've got four children and every single one of them has:

• had their head bumped on the car door while lifting them in/out of the car

• rolled/fallen off something (a step, a chair, a sofa, a bed etc)

• caught their little fingers in a cupboard door or something (the twins liked to do this to each other for sport)

• been knocked into something whilst carrying them around because I was squeezing past something/reaching for or holding something else/avoiding another child as I went through a doorway etc.

Honestly, it happens all the time. They cry for a minute, then snuggle into you, and all is forgotten again. Yours is a little too young to have heard it yet, but he will have a very different cry when he's really properly hurt himself, and once you've heard it, you'll never feel quite so guilty about the "I've had bit of a knock and need a hug" cry again!

Take care of yourself. The new baby stage is really hard, and even more so in the current climate!

How are you feeling now @Dionne12? Hopefully all f the responses you've had since posting have reassured you