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Feeling Sad/Depressed that Baby is growing up

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Pixie3007 · 18/01/2021 21:43

Hi Everybody,
This is a bit of a strange post but I can’t stop thinking about the subject of this thread.
Is it just me or can anyone else relate that they’re so hung up on the fact that their newborn is actually no longer a newborn.
My baby girl is nearly 6 months and I can’t stop reminiscing about when she was this many weeks old and looking back at those pictures from times when she was so little and being sad that she is no longer like that anymore and is getting more and more independent by the day.
Is this normal? Do I just need to get over myself and accept that they can’t stay babies forever? 😩

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Ohalrightthen · 18/01/2021 22:08

I think the odd twinge of nostalgia/sadness is normal, and the "i can't believe she's so big she used to be so tiny" is really normal, but being actually depressed by the fact that your child is growing up? I think that's a little less normal.

Is it a control thing, do you think? You can very much impose your own identity onto a newborn, they can be exactly who you want, but at about 6m they start wanting to do their own thing - they're not just little blobs that belong to you, they're people in their own rights and i suppose if you struggle with control that could be quite upsetting.

Have you spoken to anyone about this in real life?

Terracottasaur · 18/01/2021 22:08

If it’s any help my baby is currently 6 weeks old and I’m longing for the day he’s a little more independent so I can possibly have the smallest of breaks!

Trufflepuffpuff · 18/01/2021 22:10

Me too @Terracottasaur

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littlemisslozza · 18/01/2021 22:13

Wait until she's a teenager! I have a lot of nostalgia for the baby days and love looking at their photos with my DS's, but honestly, you have so much to look forward to. The baby days are special but short in hindsight. It is wonderful as they grow into inquisitive toddlers and more independent children.

whitehat · 18/01/2021 22:18

You'll probably look back on these days with nostalgia when she's a toddler or threenager! Even worse - an actual teenager!

Enjoy these days while you can Smile. There's plenty to look forward to as they get older and more independent and you start to get to know them as their own personalities.

DisgruntledPelican · 18/01/2021 22:18

Very normal to be wistful. Time does go very fast and it is true what everyone says about how you’ll miss them being so small!

I also think this is why people have more than one, some of the time...

There is a lot to look forward to, though. Interacting with them just gets better and better. Watching them learn and grow is incredible.

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Pixie3007 · 19/01/2021 07:22

Thank you everyone!
Actually ‘wistful’ as said may be a better word for it.
It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who thinks like this. She is my first baby so I also have a lot to look forward as some of you have said.
Thank you for your replies! 😊

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Nowisthemonthofmaying · 19/01/2021 07:31

@Pixie3007 I have a five month old and fell the same - sometimes when I look at her and she smiles at me I just want to cry as I know it won't be this way forever Sad

I know it's daft and I will love her just as much when she's older but I can't help it!

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 19/01/2021 08:12

I hated the newborn days. I love the fact my DS is growing into a little boy 🙂

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