Ideal age to move siblings into one bedroom?

[inthethickofit19]

Currently 21 months and 3y 22 months. So 25 month age gap

Would really like them to share but they don't have to right now, is it wise or will it go badly? Worried about settling the younger one into eldests room and being unsettled / not working out and having to move him back

I am just trying to decide when to put my two in together. Albeit older than yours, DD is nearly 5 and DS is 3.
I am only moving them as we're expecting DC3 in around 10 weeks.
Do they need to share?

Sorry just read again that they don't need to share, honestly if I wasn't having DC3 I wouldn't make mine share.

We put ours in together when the eldest was just 3 and the youngest 15 months and it worked brilliantly.
They’re 7 and 5 and in their own rooms now as the eldest wanted some space.

My 2 ds started sharing when they were 1 and 2 years old (13 months between them). No problems.

Why would you want them to share (as opposed to necessity)? Children do better with their own room than without.

@HavelockVetinari

Why would you want them to share (as opposed to necessity)? Children do better with their own room than without.

Mine shared out of choice for a few years. They loved it. They always had the option of a separate room. They are separate now but still have regular sleepovers in each other’s rooms.

So you've an almost 5yr (3yr 22 months????) old and almost 2 yr old? And there is only 2 yrs between them???? Please use years instead of this 'month's' crap.

They can share at any age, till any age. It really depends on their personalities and behaviour. I'd have them share till it's becoming a pain for you.

My kids shared from 6 months (and 2 years) they chose to continue sharing at 3&5 when we moved to a bigger house. For those asking why people might have them share - for us it was handy as my parents lived 4 hours away

@movingonup20

My kids shared from 6 months (and 2 years) they chose to continue sharing at 3&5 when we moved to a bigger house. For those asking why people might have them share - for us it was handy as my parents lived 4 hours away

Eh? Why would your parents living 4h away mean your DC needed to share? Have I missed something?

So the parents could sleep in the spare room when they stayed.

I’ve no idea how old your children are OP but if they don’t need to share then wait until they are old enough to choose to do so .

@Floralnomad

I’ve no idea how old your children are OP but if they don’t need to share then wait until they are old enough to choose to do so .

Yup, this

@HavelockVetinari what makes you say that?

I would like them to share, they are close and the eldest is desperate for the little one to join him. If they ask to be separated then they can be but it would make life easier to have them together.

@WishingHopingThinkingPraying no need to be so rude. Typo - eldest is 3y and 10 months.

I have got a 3.5 year age gap between my two children.

When the eldest turned 6 (so little one was 2.5) he was constantly begging me if they could share a bedroom. They each had their own room at this point but my eldest son so desperately wanted to share with his brother.

I was very apprehensive in case they woke each other in the night or worried that they would be generally mischievous so I said no. However, after about a year of my eldest son continually asking I eventually gave in

I bought some lovely bunk beds and they’ve been sharing a room for a little under a year now and they love it!!!!

One of the good sides is that the bedroom that my eldest son used to sleep in has now been transformed into a playroom for them and they love it.

My eldest is almost 7 and my youngest is 3.5 and they love sharing. I often ask my oldest son if he’s still happy with his little brother and reassure him that if he decides he wants to have his own room again then we can sort it - but he’s adamant he wants to share with his brother forever (his words).

It’s so cute!

@ThornAmongstRoses aw that's lovely!

Thanks inthethick - despite the age gap they are incredible close and sharing a room is a very special part of their relationship.

When the eldest one wakes up (top bunk) he climbs down and crawls into bed with his brother where they chatter away together until I call them to say they can come downstairs for breakfast.

They love each other very much and they see sharing a room as just being another way to be close to each other.