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Ex and DD lack of parenting

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Frickssake · 17/01/2021 22:04

Split from ex when Pg with DD 6 due to coercive control and gaslighting. She sometimes goes for the weekend depending on whether her dad is ' busy'. Came back this evening. I said "what's happened to her hair?! - Oh she cut it- WHAT??!!". ( Didn't want to cause a scene on doorstep - not inviting him in re covid and he never answers phone / messages. Transpires he leaves her to own devices whilst plays downstairs on phone. She said she'd taken scissors up to the attic! Further information reveals she's often left to do whatever she likes - he never takes her out or plays with her. ( Even pre covid ). He bought her a tablet for Christmas ( but he's lost the charger!)- I gave her a game to take a few weeks ago but ( it's lost apparently). Don't stop me going to my dad's she says ( I've told her I never said I would so dint know why she thinks that )but what can I do. Am livid.

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Frickssake · 17/01/2021 22:09

Also - this is not the first time it's happened. Last time ( 2 years ago - week of school play too!) He assured me it wouldn't happen again! Also came home without socks ( regular occurrence) - daddy lets me sleep whenever I want AND I can eat whatever I want ( pre covid if she didn't want her Sunday dinner - he'd take her to McDonald's This happened every week ( no wonder I'm the "bad") parent. She said she wants to live with her daddy as she can do what she wants, eat what she wants etc and daddy doesn't mind

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Frickssake · 17/01/2021 22:09

( and breathe.......)

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Ohthatoldchestnut · 17/01/2021 22:24

And this is why I'd consider a sperm donor...
But seriously OP, I cannot imagine the frustration and have no real advice (sorry) but just wanted to say good on you for leaving in the first place - not the easiest I know - and I'm sure whatever you're doing, you're an epic mum, supporting your DD through the minefield of having a dad like this. Sending love for you and your little one.

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