"Mine vs our" toys for multiple DDs/DDs

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I have 3 DDs, still very young, and was wondering how you do this.

Are the toys shared or are they individual? How does it work?

TBH I had a brother and we had separate, reasonably sized bedrooms with our own toys. We would play together most of the time but there were "my vs his" toys. Don't really remember having shared toys.

I'm doing it a bit different for DDs. Most toys are shared toys. They each have a baby and a couple of teddies each that are accepted as individual toys.

It does make me wonder how it works when they start becoming older.

Thanks

I meant to write DDs/DSs on the title!!

I only have one DD currently, but my sister and I used to share some toys, such as Lego and outdoor equipment, but also had our own interests (she had more dolls, I liked more tomboy-ish things). I think it's good for kids to share, plus will save you buying everything twice!

I mixed it up a bit. Special things given as special presents would belong to one of them, but most things were in the mix. Not too much “mine”, just things they were particularly attached to. I think it worked quite well and they were then good at sharing/passing things on they’d grown out of. One year they even opted to pool their Christmas money to buy something to share and play with together, which I thought was nice.

Most things were shared when DC were small. They always had their own teddies/babies but other than a couple of favourites, ownership of those was pretty changeable.
They are teens now, and while a board/ps game might technically belong to one of them, they are both allowed to play them. They still have a couple of teddies each that are strictly off limits though!

I have DDs 2 and 4, they have some shared toys (duplo etc) some of their own (dolls house, Sylvanians) which they are supposed to share but they have to ask whoever toy it is first, and a couple of special soft toys which they don't have to share. In theory it works great...

Mine are 7&9. Many things end up shared, simply because you wouldn't buy two of them (for example, DD got a microscope from her Grandparents for Christmas. Other DD may also want to use it, which DD1 will allow, and DD2 let's DD1 use her metal detector). Books are passed between them. Lego is built by the 'owner' then aged with by both. They have their own bikes and scooters. They share craft stuff.

In their minds, sharing means more stuff. They are close in age... And good friends (luckily, as they each other sole playmate at the moment!)

I think it's different with larger age gaps and perhaps different sexes... They like similar things.

A mix of own and shared toys for my two (5 and 2). That said, they're happy to share most things and play with each others toys lots. But if one of them didn't want to share and it was 'their own', we don't force them to.

We have a small number of “special toys” which belong exclusively to one child. Everything is a “special toy” for the first day (so eg birthday presents belong to the birthday child for the day). Everything else is shared.