Family court

[damnthisvirusandmarriage]

I have first hearing next week. Abusive ex has applied for 50/50.

I do not want this. I was safe supervised contact. I want him to do anger management. Parenting course. Drugs abs alcohol testing. And maybe mental health evaluation too.

He applied for mediation then text me to tell me he abs his solicitor didn’t think it would be appropriate due to my abusive and volatile behaviour.

Over the years I made so many calls to police when he’s hurt our children and me. I’m speaking with police preparing statement for coercive control. I have she too or so many videos abs screen shots of abuse and him admitting to it. Yet he’s got away with every isolated incident every time for lawful chastisement. And claims I’m the one with mental health issues as I called the police every time.

CAFCASS have done a report. Seems fair. But seeks to have not acknowledged the abuse. But it is included in the report. She hasn’t made any recommendations in her report.

Court is next week. I have legal aid barrister. Any advice?

Do you have any support from an IDVA or DV organisation who can support you?
Make sure you start keeping a diary of ANY events no matter how insignificant they may be. If you still communicate with your ex make sure you keep a record eg via email so you have evidence of any abusive behaviour. Do you have evidence of drug/alcohol use?
You’ve got a barrister do hopefully that will help you. I’ve never had legal support snd had to represent myself but had support from my IDVA. What about social services input, if the police attended they would have gone safeguarding referrals.
Go go from supervised contact to 50/50 is a HUGE jump so I’m not convinced that would happen. Just try and stay as calm as you can. Good luck

I’m having counselling through women’s aid. I’m not sure what else they offer for support in the legal sense.

He’ll get 50/50 one day though won’t he 😩

I have evidence of drugs in sms messages admitting to it. And I bought drugs tests off Amazon which he tested positive for opiates and THC. He claims it was from codeine.

Make sure your barrister sees the messages regarding admission to drug use.
It’s good your in touch with women’s aid go with the counselling it will help you.
Just focus on what’s happening now, Good luck x