Routine with grandparents

[Katiekat28]

Looking for some advice on having a routine when my child is being looked after by my parents (daughter's grandparents)

My daughter is 5 months and in a relaxed routine, she eats (milk) when she's hungry, sleeps when she's tired, and plays when she wants too. The only routine myself and my husband are hot on is bedtime routine. No naps after 5 bath and relax time 6-6:30 followed by milk and bed. My question is.. when being looked after by her grandparents should I put a strict routine in place during the day or just say to them let her eat/nap/play when she wants like I do?
What do some of you do? I would be interested to know other peoples plans of action when being left with grandparents for work.

I don’t think it’s fair to ask grandparent to introduce a routine. If you want them to have her in a routine you will need to introduce it first.

No you've misunderstood I wouldn't expect my parents to put her in a routine.. I'm saying should I get her into a routine ready for when they do look after her

Ah. I would ask your parents what they would prefer. Is this for you to go back to work? If you are working set hours and having to get up at the same time each day you find she starts to fall into more of a pattern. My second was forced into more of a routine because I had to leave the house at 8.45 to take her sister to school nursery and then feed her again before leaving at 11.30 for pick and she coped well.

They will probably find their own routine her. And she is at an age where the routine will evolve often. What they are sleeping at 5 months will probably be different from 8 months for example.

You could say you dont want her having naps after 5 though.

It is different from a nursery setting or a childminder or nanny setting. Especially if your parents are doing it for free.

Yes this is for me to return to work ( although I don't know my hours as of yet) asking my parents would be do able, and would give them the choice of what they would prefer, plus I didn't think about her naturally just adapting to my work routine to be fair..