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Do i need my head checking?

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AmINuts · 26/10/2004 14:00

Am a regular poster who has changed my name for anonymity's sake.
I have a DD who has been born in the last 6 months (wont say her exact age as it may give me away and haven't spoken to DP about this yet).

She is the best baby i could possibly wish for (She is my first). She is in an excellent routine for sleeping and eating, she never ever cries(only when she is poorly) and she is just so laid back and easy going.

I feel like i could quite happily have another one now. DP and i have always said we want our kids to be close in age but not quite sure if he was banking on them being this close.
Wanted to see what you guys thought before mentioning it to DP.
Do any of you have really close gaps that were either planned or unplanned? Was it really hard work? What am i getting myself in for?

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AmINuts · 26/10/2004 14:40

Ok, maybe posting under a different name wasn't such a great idea. People are probably thinking along the troll lines.

I'm not i promise, I promise i will reveal myself at the end of this thread just to prove it too That is if i get any answers

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Chuffed · 26/10/2004 14:49

Thinking the same thing so am curious as to the answers you'll get.

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AmINuts · 26/10/2004 14:51

Are u a regular?

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fernyburn · 26/10/2004 14:54

Hi
My dd, was born 8 months ago, and we have been trying for the last 3 months.
I want 2 kids close in age (firstly cos my hubbie is alot older than me) but also because I feel alot of the issues, sibling jealousy, ect wont be an issue. I know its gonna be real hard work, but I think the pros outweigh the cons.
Hope that has helped

Sallie · 26/10/2004 14:55

I felt exactly the same after ds and dd arrived 17.5 months after him. I am now actively ttc no 3 because I felt the same after having dd. I was extremely lucky to have two problem-free pregnancies and deliveries and relatively easy going children to boot! I am one of three and we are all close together in age so always wanted that for my kids. Its hard hard work for the first 6 months having 2 under 2 but things do get easier once things settle down and now I am finding that they amuse each other. Good luck and go for it!!

zubb · 26/10/2004 14:56

I have a 22 month gap and find that great, but did find that I really wanted another one when both kids were about 6 / 7 months old. I waited till ds1 was a year before trying for number 2, and will do the same with ds2. IMO it would be hard work with a smaller gap but many have done it and survived.

KateandtheGirls · 26/10/2004 14:57

AmInuts, what difference does it make if chuffed is a regular?

I personally couldn't have coped with 2 so close in age, even though my oldest was also a great baby.

My niece and nephew are 17 months apart, and my SIL has always been glad that she had them so close together.

Only you and your husband can decide really.

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AmINuts · 26/10/2004 15:03

Doesn't matter if she is a regular at all Kate & The Girls, it's just that i had my suspicions who it may be if it was a regular, that's all!

I am so so tempted - i had an awful experience as far as labour went this ime round, but had a reasonable trouble free pregnancy.
Think i will talk to DP about it tonight and see what he thinks.

Now isn't really the best time finacially for us to have another baby but when is there a good time?

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Chuffed · 26/10/2004 15:13

AmINuts I am a regular and haven't changed my name. Let us know what happens tonight, maybe see you in the TTC thread.

Pidge · 26/10/2004 15:29

The ideal age gap between kids is the one that you want! Sorry not very helpful in the decision-making process. Some people are really keen to have their kids close in age, personally I'd have found that a real challenge, plus at that stage I couldn't bear the thought of any kind of distraction from my dd who I was (still am!) besotted with. So we've settled on 2.8 years. There are pros and cons each way - main thing is that you and your partner are happy. Good luck.

Twiglett · 26/10/2004 15:55

well personally I would say that kind of age gap will be hard work

as soon as your 6 month old starts moving under their own steam and getting frustrated you'll be up and down like a yo-yo .. it will all change .. and doing it preggers could be tough

I have a 3.3 year gap between mine and its far easier for me (I have placid kids too) than for most of my friends with smaller age gap (and DD is 6 months too)

that said it could take while to conceive

are you on my thread?

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AmINuts · 26/10/2004 16:52

Now Now Twiglett, that would be telling. Although i have spoken to you quite a bit in the past.

It took us a long time to concieve DD (not an age, compared to some) but it took about a year.
This is the sort of thing that i worry about.

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JiminyCricket · 26/10/2004 17:02

I wanted another when dd was 6 months too...waited until she was 1 yr then started trying, 3 months on now, glad we didn't wait longer because we knoe it could take a while realistically. I think the whole baby shock thing can affect people differently, though, so your dh might not feel quite ready, probably best to let him know how you feel soonish so he can get used to the idea and let you know how he feels. Also it will be hectic, I reckon, having two close together so you'll need him on side!

Twiglett · 26/10/2004 17:09

OK not BF now so can type with more than one hand

I started trying for 2nd child when DS was a year old .. cos I thought I wanted the 2 year age gap and it took only 2 months to conceive him

however it took a lot longer than anticipated (long, involved story that ended up with clomid) and I am eternally grateful because I got through to a stage where DS is a little bit more helpful, and amenable and really adores having a sister (the fact he's at pre-school for 2 and a half hours a day helps too )

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