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[Newbee123]

Hi ladies I live with my in laws and my younger BIL's go to school and I just brought my premmie home. Ofcourse they are off school at the minute but they go back in Feb. I can't leave just for that as it's my home too ? Am I exaggerating as people have kids who are school atm with a new born premmie too ?

Firstly, congratulations on your baby!
Secondly, there’s no guarantee children will be back at school in February. I’m not sure it’s likely.
Have you got anywhere else to live? Obviously you can’t stop your BIL’s from going to school, so if you’re not happy with the risk then it’s probably best for you to find somewhere else to go if possible.

@AmoElCafe
Thank you ! I can't find anywhere else to
Go at the minute and because it's lockdown it's even harder. Do you think it's selfish me staying there ? I feel guilty like I'm putting my sons life at risk 😞

How prem is your baby op and how old? What medical issues do they have?

Obv you can't stop your bills from going to school, although i agree it'll likely be Easter not Feb at best. But of you are really worried then looking at getting your own place is one option. Is your partner around?

I'd say as long as they're washing their hands before they hold her etc, you've probably done as much as you can. That's the reality of living in multi-generational extended families

@SleepingStandingUp hi my baby was born at 26 +2. He's now 39 weeks and his due date is next week. He has no issues other than reflux he didn't have chronic lung disease at his stay at the hospital but they didn't mention anything when they discharged him as he didn't come home on anything. And I for my sanity didn't want to live alone it's nice having a lot of people around for company my BIL's are so good with him i get to have some rest and still look after my son. Is that selfish ? And my partner is going back to work next week ...

*he did have chronic lung diseases

I don't see how it's any different to of this was your 2nd op. If you had another child on school you'd be mixing with the school run, plus all the other kids your kid would be seeing, the child would likely to be touching and kissing and licking baby.

Plus your DH is going out to work, your ILs possibly too.

So no, I don't think it's selfish and I do think hospital would have said something if they were worried about the home you were going to.

I do understand having such a small poorly baby is going to make you anxious, so you could look at putting rules on once they return or no seeing baby until they've put of uniform and washed hands etc. And of their school bubble bursts and they have to isolate that you and the baby will stay away.

I don’t think it’s selfish to stay there, no. It’s your home. I would just put all the basic precautions in that I would do if the BIL’s were my own children... hands washed, change of clothes etc.

[quote Newbee123]@SleepingStandingUp hi my baby was born at 26 +2. He's now 39 weeks and his due date is next week. He has no issues other than reflux he didn't have chronic lung disease at his stay at the hospital but they didn't mention anything when they discharged him as he didn't come home on anything. And I for my sanity didn't want to live alone it's nice having a lot of people around for company my BIL's are so good with him i get to have some rest and still look after my son. Is that selfish ? And my partner is going back to work next week ... [/quote]
Ok, so he won’t still be premature when children go back to school, and it doesn’t sound like he has ongoing health issues?

I was nervous when my preemie twins came home because Dd was still going to preschool and could bring back just about anything! I actually genuinely think yours will be safer than in normal times - tiny babies rarely seem to have issues if they do have Covid. I’ve found that before lockdown, my Dd wasn’t bringing home endless sniffles and tummy bugs because everyone is being so careful with hygiene. So please, don’t feel you have to leave your home. It’s normal to worry, but I don’t think there’s a real concern here.

@crazychemist Thank you I feel much better!
Did you ever worry about RSV or bronchitis concerning your twins ?

Children will almost certainly not be going back to school until April. He'll be more at risk from your partner going back to work (unless he works from home) and was probably at most risk being in hospital as a preemie as many COVID cases are (even still) hospital acquired.

@Newbee123 I worry about lots of things about my twins! They are only 6 weeks old according to adjusted age. Their lungs seem to be fine so far, I worry for no reason!