Any new mums just had enough?

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I'm a FTM to my 7 month old little girl and I absolutely love being her mummy and enjoy her company so much but I've just had enough of being a mum in this pandemic! No help, no classes, no family, no nothing! Sorry to be negative I do know I could be in a much worse position but I'm just feeling down and bored and could do with someone coming round to my house to play with my daughter so I don't have to for once 🙄😃 anyone else feel the same?

It is absolutely shit. I loved my maternity leave with my DD1 - hanging out with NCT group for coffee once a week, a baby group most days.... it was a really overly time of bonding with my daughter and getting to know local mums, many of whom I’m still in contact with. Finding being stuck at home all day with twins + DD who is now 4 a completely different and MUCH shitter experience, especially when the weather is grotty.

@crazychemist wow twins and a 4 year old in lockdown! That must be tough 😧 how old are your twins? It makes me so sad that I have missed out on loads of classes and socialising with my little girl, I am going to start these as soon as I can as I'm fortune to not have to return to my job but not knowing when I will be able to is tough. I do things during the day now like going for long walks and making fun activities for my daughter indoors 😊 how do you fill your days? Any inspiration?!

Feel the same too. No twins but a four year old and a just turned one year old.

Every day I’m so tired. And also bored, I used to go out places and meet people with my eldest and also he was at nursery and then school some of the week. Now there’s nothing like you say, just day after day of endless playing, TV and housework, plus crappy weather so even sitting in the garden isn’t appealing.

My baby likes climbing so I spend a lot of time helping her down from things! Also she likes reading touchy feely books and playing games like putting toys on her head or putting glasses on me or taking them off again. I sing her songs like row your boat or wheels on the bus and move her legs for the actions. But the days are long!

Yup! Mummy to a 9 month old here and my entire mat leave has been a really shit experience. I know COVID restrictions means its not been representative of 'normal' life, but its put me off having another tbh

Yes 100%. FTM to a 8 month old and I'm so done and fed up. I love her but I am so tired of wrestling her to sleep and barely getting 1 minute to go to the loo! It's all definitely exacerbated by lockdown. It's hard to keep positive at the moment.

I have to say I feel the same. FTM to a gorgeous 7 month old but my family don’t know him and I can’t meet any friends of course.
I am worried I’m getting too clingy with him and won’t be able to cope when the world opens and I have to leave him with someone else to look after??

Also I’m worried he doesn’t interact with any other babies. At this point in normal world he’d be Going to baby groups right? Is he missing out on socialising and might be scared when he is out of this insular life?

FTM to a 12week old and single parent (dad has never been / wanted to be involved). Spent my whole pregnancy and now last 12weeks living alone. I just want to have someone come round and give me a peaceful hot shower, a meal out, coffee in a cafe so I can have some adult conversion, baby group just a “normal” slice of life. I have a bubble, but being reliant on one person who has her own family and kids isn’t fun.

You are right, it's shit. My DS is 6 now and I was just reminiscing with a friend from baby group days about how very, very lucky we were to be out socialising, doing new things, going new places... Anyone who has had a baby (especially a first baby) this year has been robbed of so much.

It's utterly shit, you're right. I feel silly moaning about it, but it's so different to my first mat leave & it's making me sad. I'm homeschooling DD too so I feel like I'm not even focussed on DS. Baby doesn't know any different though!

Yep!

DD was born in early September. My entire pregnancy was during corona/lockdowns. I'm sick of it! I just want to see my friends and spend time with my mum and MIL.

I had my first baby the week before lockdown and was only let out of hospital 2 days before due to a difficult birth.

It’s not been the maternity leave I wanted for either of us. Every time we’ve got booked on to a baby class it’s ended up being cancelled!

It also doesn’t help that everyone around me tries to put a positive spin on it, yes it has been lovely to bond with him but it doesn’t replace what we’ve missed out on!

So glad to hear it's not just me whose feeling like this! Sorry to all you ladies who have also had a tough time.
@No1duck it winds me up too when people are always telling me to be positive! I get why and I do try but sometimes I just need a good moan because no matter how positive you try to be it's still crap 🙄

8 month old and a 4 year old here. Worst mat leave I could ever have imagined. And now homeschooling too. Go back to work in March, no escape from covid there as I’m a nurse. Feel very sad that my boys have missed out on seeing family so much (they don’t live near me so can’t even do distanced walk). BUT, we are all healthy and alive and I’m so very grateful for that.

I spent Jan and Feb 2020 in pseudo lockdown with pregnancy sickness and fatigue. It was just lifting when covid hit, we are in the North west and have only had a couple of weeks since march when we have been able to have some degree of normalcy. I have pnd and my daughter has pretty bad reflux it has been hard to cope without normal support avenues being available

FTM with 7 month old. This is certainly not how I expected to spend my maternity leave and it is utter shite. DS has been relatively easy going up until the last month with teething and leaps and weaning going very badly due to allergies . I'm really feeling the lack of baby support groups, breastfeeding groups, baby sensory music classes. Every day is sooo long and I feel so guilty for feeling desperate to get back to work for a change of scenery ( to add to that guilt I'm an early years teacher so makes me feel worse that I'd rather be with 30 3 year olds than my own baby) don't get me wrong I love him to bits but he's been bloody hard work this week 🤣 having them with you 24/7 is so hard when you can't mix it up with going places, having people over etc. Having said all that I think lockdown babies will be absolutely unaffected by lockdown ,if anything lots of babies will have benefited from more interaction from their parents on a one to one basis. They really don't need to socialise in my opinion until they are a bit older 18 months + the most important thing is that first relationship with their first carer for the first year. That's what all future relationships are based on.