Struggling with reflux and colic

[kate1368843]

Hi lovely mamas,

I have a 4 year old son and gave birth to our daughter Dec last year, she'll be 6 weeks this Sunday. Lockdown baby!

I know every baby is different. I was so lucky throughout my pregnancy and after with my son. Struggled at first BF but got the hang of it and no other troubles.

With our baby girl though it has been so different. Struggled again with BF at the start (silly me thought it would be a bit easier second time round) but all fine now.

She's struggled with colic since she was born and also has reflux. We now have some Gaviscon which has stopped her throwing up after every feed but the colic is still awful. We've tried and are still trying everything. The exercises, burping, infacol, gripe water, swaddling, warm baths etc.

She will not settle unless she's on me or constantly feeding. I love her cuddles but I can't even go for a wee without her crying. She won't settle at night unless she's next to me which has resulted in cosleeping.
We never did with with our son as my husband is a smoker. So now my husband (bless him) has been sleeping downstairs pretty much since she was born and she's been sleeping with me. I really want her to sleep in her bed nest as I'm just scared of co sleeping that I wake up constantly checking she's ok. I have nothing against cosleeping but I'd really like my husband to be able to sleep in our bed again.

I'm at my wits end and so so tired. Thankfully our son is amazing and understands mummy needs to look after the baby but I feel so so guilty I barely get anytime with him. My husband has been brilliant and helping as much as he can but he runs his own business and is now drowning in work as he's trying to help me.

I know it's going to get better soon but I really hope that's VERY soon haha.

I suppose my mood is so low because of lockdown too. I can take my son and daughter for a walk or to our local playground but I miss baby classes and groups and meeting friends for tea and cake.

If anyone has any other tips for colic I'd be so grateful.

So sorry for the long post!!

My second ds had colic. I remember those days vividly! Colief drops were our miracle helper. And lots of bicycle legs.

It sounds quite normal for a 6 week old though? Mine would only sleep on one of us for ages, needed lots of help burping, constant feeding... isn't there a growth spurt around 6 weeks? So lots of feeding (and they still have tiny stomachs) makes sense? So it could be a combination of a few things at this stage.

So I think my main advice is ride it out - it will improve but will take time. It's so tough not being able to get out to baby groups - my DD is 14 months I really miss them! There are quite a lot online though so worth searching for what's on in your area - some have young baby classes on zoom and you can chat to other new mums and usually they'll give you first refusal for physical places when we go back to a tier system (my groups were still able to run in tier 4). Also if you have a local NCT group their free walk and talk sessions are in local parks and they are still allowed to run in lockdown (at the moment at least) so could be worth considering?