1 child or 2? Help

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A bit of a taboo subject so bare with and don't judge.
So i have one child, who I gave birth to in may last year. Absolutely wasn't planned but loved so dearly. The absolute centre of my world she is so loved and everything to both me and my partner.
We had always said we had wanted more children, but planned a little bit of an age gap but not to big, surprisingly I have fell pregnant yet again, my child is 8 months old and I just don't know how I feel or what to do.
I know termination is a taboo subject but I don't know if that's the right thing for us to do.
I have such a mix of emotions, but If I was not to go ahead with the pregnancy I am certain I wouldn't want anymore in the future leaving DD an only child which I don't know how to feel about that either!
My DD is a spoilt rotten, not to blow our own trumpets but she has everything and more I could possibly want her to have, my parents spoil her rotten to, and obviously with a second we wouldn't be able to do that the way we do now.
I know it's normal to feel guilt on how you would love another child the way you love your first, but I just feel like maybe I haven't had enough time with just her alone first? I feel maybe I would be forcing her to be a older sibling when she's still very much a baby herself, I feel there is pressure on me to have her sleeping through sooner moved on her own room ect because of a new baby.
My parents have always said they would be making her a bedroom at there house for sleep overs with dd, but she hasn't had chance to even do that yet due to her not sleeping though yet and I didn't want her to sleep out without sleeping though and I think they meant more of when she was a toddler to of course.
So my question is you was an only child how did that feel for you? Did you wish you had siblings? And if you have had 1 child and are staying at that why? And If you have had more than the 1 why as well? Sorry this ended up so long I am just so confused right now

I think your concerns are valid, you won't be able to spoil DC2 as much but that's just how things are. Also, the first one always suddenly looks more grown up when you have a newborn in your arms.

As fir the sleeping through, I always thought that I'd get all of those sleepless nights over in a short burst. If you are waiting fir DC1 to regularly sleep through, you might be waiting a while, my DC1 didn't sleep through till they were almost 5

I have a DF who has just 13 months between her DC. Not planned but she has always loved it. It was hard work when they were both in nappies but they are extremely close and my DF says she wouldn't have had it any other way now looking back.

And you are right, abortion is a taboo subject but lots of women do it every year.

It's such a tricky decision because it's really down to personal choice. I have 2 (girl & boy) who are exactly 2 years apart so more of an age gap than you would have. We always wanted two children but when I found out I was expecting my second I had serious doubts about all the things you've mentioned - giving him the time & attention he deserves, being able to give him things he wants & needs. It was definitely an emotional battle. I even felt a bit conflicted when I found out we were having a girl as I really wanted one of each but worried my son would prefer a brother. Our main reason for wanting 2 was to give them a sibling.

However, after all my concerns, watching them together just eliminates any worries I ever had. They absolutely adore each other & just love playing together. Don't get me wrong, it's not all harmonious but on the whole I really think my little boy would be a totally different child without his sister. They bring out the best in each other & they're both much more confident because of their sibling.

I have a sister & we get on so well, I really couldn't imagine not having her.

I hope you're able to make a choice, whatever that is

I was an only child, my husband is one for four. I didn’t hate being an only child that’s all I ever knew but from seeing my dh with his siblings I would like for our little girl to have that.
we hope to be able to have another baby? I would love for her to have the bond with a brother or sister that I didn’t get to have.

You will make the right decision xx

You might not be able to spoil her as much materially (is that even a bad thing?) but you'd be giving her a sibling for life. No way on earth I'd trade in my relationship with my sibling and all the fun and laughs we had together growing up for more toys or a bigger bedroom or whatever 😬