Feeling awful and guilty

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I just lost it with my husband in front of our 2 month old baby. The kitchen wasn't clean enough for my liking and I just went crazy. I'm a bit sleep deprived but it's just a constant mess and it annoys me so much. I feel terrible and feel like I've damaged my daughter in some way. I haven't shouted or slammed doors in front of her before like that. I worry she's going to hate me in the future if I continue to do things like this. I can't control my temper sometimes.

You need to work on managing your temper, life with small kids can be really frustrsting and and better control will serve you well into the future. Getting angry is fine, shouting and slamming doors is not. Give your GP and/or HV a call and see if they can recommend you any online resources for anger management.

Oh lord don’t worry OP, unless you feel out of control, you’re human, you’re sleep deprived- your child won’t even register it. Can you remember how many times your parent lost their temper when you were 2 months old?

She’s so little, she won’t have even registered it. Cut yourself some slack, the fact you feel guilty about it shows you’re a good mum who wants to do the best for her daughter. Take a deep breath, have some chocolate, and move on.

If it’s not a one off and you can’t control your temper (as you stated) then you need to seek professional help.

I disagree that acting like this long term is healthy for you or your poor family.

Don't underestimate how lack of sleep can affect you... Work out how a nap can fit into your day...
When ds was 6 months I went back to work. I perfected a half hour nap in an arm chair at 4.30pm before I left at 6. Your messy kitchen is less important than your nap..

I really wouldn’t be giving your GP a call over this!! Sounds like you just had a bad day.

You are human OP. Gosh, I have even shouted at my colicky DD when she was a baby. She’s a toddler now and isn’t traumatised. Having a new baby makes you feels levels of stress you never knew were possible!

Take a deep breath, and walk away if you need to so you can calm down. It will get better!