what should I do when they come to pick up ds today?

[tryingtocookacurry]

I had a blazing row yesterday with my xp's girlfriend on the phone. I have never met her before and she accused me of saying a lot of things that I haven't done or said.

E.g. hurting ds's feelings by calling his dad pathetic

cancelling visits with them at short notice

she callen me immature and unreasonable!

Would you go to the door with ds and act like nothing ever happened or say something to her as she has really hurt my feelings and I feel really uncomfortable with some of the many things she accused me of.

What does your ds want to do? Would he like to do every weekend or every other weekend, he is old enough for his feelings to be taken into account. Perhaps you need to tell your exp that ds will have homework to do and that he will be bringing it with him and could he ensure that it gets doe. Give them all the responsibility of parenthood for the weekend!

He would probably want to go every week due to the fact that they spoil him and it appears that he gets a new computer game or toy pretty much every time he goes.
And I am not like that, I don't buy him things like that, he knows he has to wait until Christmas, Birthdays or save pocket money.

how about 2 weeks with them one week with you and I'm very serious about you discussing with your dp that he will need to help ds with his homework etc I think over time the novelty will wear off with your ds.