Is your 11 month old night weaned?

[cactusdog]

Just wondering how many peoples 11 month olds are actually night weaned and sleeping through.

Mine is not and I wondering if it will ever happen 😭

Mine were all night weaned by 9 months. Two were sleeping through at 11 months and 1 wasn't.

@StacySoloman do you have any tips!?

I can certainly tell you what worked for me

Most important thing for sleeping through is self-settling at bedtime. I basically did pick up-put down where you don't leave them alone just shush and pat them in the cot and only pick up if they get really distressed - and put them down again before they fall asleep in arms.
Mine liked a very vigorous bottom pat with them on their tummies to fall asleep.
You can then gradually reduce the amount of patting and shushing over a few days until they fall asleep without help.

Night weaning - I did a last feed at 11pm and then didn't feed again until 3am and then gradually pushed it to 4/5/6am. Once they went 11-6 I brought the last feed forward and reduced it until there was no milk 6pm-6am. If they woke in between it was cuddles or a cup of water only.
They do need to eat three good meals a day before they can go through the night without milk though imo, which for mine was all about 8-9 months.

Nightweaned at 10 months - went from waking every 2 or 3 hours to sleeping 7-7 in one night!

DD is just one and we night weaned starting a couple of weeks ago.

We had a crappy week of sleep over Christmas which made me bite the bullet and it was sooooo much easier than I thought.

For a few days DH went jn whenever she woke to reassure her ( he kept popping in every 5 mins till she went back to sleep. She whinged but never properly cried).

After 3 or 4 days I started doing the popping in, once she was used to not being fed. We quickly went from 3 wake ups to two, to just one and...

SHE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT 7-7 YESTERDAY, about 10 days into the process.

DD is absolutely fine. She's no more hungry during the day but her nighttime nappies are far less full so I think she's just got less pointless liquid flowing through 🤣

She's been a bad sleeper on and off, and that was the first full night sleep I've had since New Year's Eve 2020. It was honestly amazing. Highly recommend night weaning!

@StacySoloman you say you cut out x feeds, how? My daughter wakes every hour at least, she's 14m and only really feeds at night now and we side car co sleep so I literally just roll over and flop a boob out to settle her again. How would I go about stopping these feeds? She doesn't seem to settle any other way?!

I night weaned just before 9 months when having a night feed was starting to impact her milk feeds and solids the next day. She was only feeding once a night and not every night then anyway so just gave a cuddle instead and put back down. Within about a week she was sleeping 7-7 and did consistently for about 2 months until we hit a regression. At 12.5 months she's just started sleeping through again, though not consistently. I've done a handfull of night feeds over the last 2 months when we've had a really bad night and wanted to settle quickly around 4am. I figured it didn't have to be all or nothing!

Mine stopped night feeds and night waking at 17 months, they get there in their own time although I genuinely had days especially after I'd gone back to work where I thought the sleep deprivation might kill me!
She pretty much always sleeps through now though, it was like 17 months was just a turning point for her sleep wise.

I nightweaned DD at 11mo. She slept through 3 nights later and did it every night by 12mo.

DS was trickier and a much worse sleeper. I gradually nightweaned him. I would say he was basically nightweaned and sleeping through by 12m but I still feed him if he wakes in the night. He only does this once or twice a month (at nearly 2yo) and usually early morning, so I am ok with this.

There was a big change with both mine at around 11/12m, with input from me.

[quote DriftGames]@StacySoloman you say you cut out x feeds, how? My daughter wakes every hour at least, she's 14m and only really feeds at night now and we side car co sleep so I literally just roll over and flop a boob out to settle her again. How would I go about stopping these feeds? She doesn't seem to settle any other way?! [/quote]
I'd put her in her own room, or you sleep elsewhere, and have her dad settle her between feeds.

@StacySoloman unfortunately he's a lazy wanker and prefers to sleep however I think I'm gonna suggest we swap sides so baby can't see me and he can settle her. I'm desperate to get her in her own room but he's (obviously) more keen on this situation.

DS is 10 months and has been night weaned for a while. I'm very grateful he sleeps 7-7 now (we built up to that). We made sure to differentiate 'bedtime' from nap time - putting in pjs and sleeping bag, having bath, using blackout blind etc etc. We also leave music on for him which he likes to sleep to. Aside from that - I honestly admit it's luck!

My son slept through since he was 3 months old. We didn't do anything he just done it

@happymummy12345

My son slept through since he was 3 months old. We didn't do anything he just done it

...how on earth do you think that is helpful for the OP!? Nice stealth boast tho.

Thanks for the replies everyone.
I have been doing some googling abs now I'm more stressed! Everything seems to say wait until they are ready.
He's not a bad sleeper, we have a good routine where he goes to sleep in his cot, bath, sleeping bag noise toy etc. Then if a good night he wakes at about 10 comes into bed with us, feeds them asleep until 4ish when he has another feed, then wakes around 6 but often he's unsettled or has wind through the early hours and I manage to keep him asleep with feeding on and off. I wouldn't mind any of this but I am so worried as I'm going back to work soon and I will work some night shifts.
I just hate to think of him upset without me but I don't know what else to do.

His sleep doesn't sound terrible, especially if he's already settling himself to sleep.

I'd try getting his dad to do a bottle feed at 10pm and settling him back in his cot, then if he wakes up before 4 have dad go in and resettle him.
If he wakes after 4 bring him in to bed with you and feed him.
Then you can just push the 4am feed out a bit.

It's quite nice to have them come into bed with you at 5.30/6ish and feed and doze until morning, especially if you are then going to work.