When did you stop cosleeping?

[doireallyneedaname]

My 10 month old currently cosleeps for the majority of the night, he goes down in his own bed at 7 and will wake at 10 and refuse to settle until he comes in with us, where he’ll sleep through til 7.

We have tried various things to get him into his own bed, including a sleep course which worked for a week and then he was back to the same again.

I don’t mind it and I usually enjoy the cuddles as he likes to snuggle up to me, but my partner is suffering as he is pretty much hanging off the bed come morning and it’s also cold as although baby is in his sleepbag, we keep the duvet down by our hips to keep him safe.

So I’m wondering for those who found themselves in similar situations, what age did you manage to successfully get baby back in to their own bed?

I’m not going down the crying it out route, I have tried a gentle form of this whereby I stay with baby and settle him as he cries but that doesn’t work any more and even if it does, he’s awake again shortly after wanting to come in with us.

Not until around 4 years - it worked for us though and by the time he was 4 years he decided himself

Thanks! Did you try and tempt him into a bed before that? Themed bedroom, bed etc?

Just before 2 we moved DD1 into her own room but there was a lot of us hopping into bed with. For this reason we got her a 3/4 double. DD2 still cosleep at 18 months at the moment it feels never ending but I know it won’t be forever.

My DD slept like a dream on her own until eight months and then would only co-sleep. This co-incided with me going back to work so we didn't really resist. She decided she wanted to move into her bedroom at around two and a half. In the meantime, we did up her room in a theme she liked to entice her in, which didnt work, although she liked her room! We tried several times to get her to sleep in there, but she whipped herself up into such a state, it was heartbreaking and we just couldn't do it.

She's almost four now and still has times when she wants to co-sleep (normally times of disruption to routine, like over the Christmas break or on holiday). She sometimes wakes in the night and comes in. I think the age where children feel ready can vary quite a bit, but take heart, I don't know of any teenagers in their parents' beds 😉

With my first baby she went into own bed happily at 18 months. She's nearly 4 now and will never come into our bed, even if she's sick she wants her own bed.
My second is 2.5 and still cosleeping all the time. Showing no signs of wanting his own bed. I don't mind though, they're only little once. He will move himself out eventually.

Having said that we have a spare bed that my husband sleeps in when he's had enough of wriggly toddler. He doesn't mind. Is also of the opinion that whatever gets us all the most sleep is the way forward.

@doireallyneedaname

Thanks! Did you try and tempt him into a bed before that? Themed bedroom, bed etc?

Yes all the time, I even tried sleeping in his bedroom with him, in the end I gave up and he decided himself at around 4 years old. Good luck, i

My advice is to get a bigger bed!

Get 2 single duvets, you can then pull them up over each of you independently, leaving a gap in the middle for the baby.

I have tried everything to get mine into his own bed, he is now able to express an opinion and will not entertain the idea of sleeping in his own bed, even if it was in the same room as us!

Do whatever works for you and whatever gets you the most sleep!

YY to two single duvets.

DS2 loved co-sleeping. (So did I - he rarely moved, and was just a lovely little teddy bear!) I never bothered with a cot - he went straight into a single bed at 12 months, with a bedguard. He went off to sleep OK in his bed, but would wake around 1am. I would jump in with him sometimes leaving dh asleep in our bed, or he would come in with us, and dh could either stay or go off to the single bed. Everyone slept well.

He stopped of his own accord, gradually, but never came back aged 8 or more. Happy memories.

She nine. Still cosleeping. But her dad and I split when she was two so it’s never been an issue. She sleeps in her own bed at his house and at grandmas.

Dc1 18mo
Dc2 6yo
Dc3 still comes in every second night or so at 3yo

You can take the side off a cot and attach it to the side of your bed, just make sure the mattresses have no gap.

Some kids need more reassurance than others. Some parents need more sleep than others! I am rubbish at sitting with them when they have nightmares, so they just come into my bed for cuddles.

I moved into DDs room for a little while (A week I think, but I don’t really remember) with a mattress on the floor so she could get used to her new bed but still know I was there and hear breathing etc. She was 2 when I did that, she was in a cot attached to our bed before that and we were happy with that.

Looks like are in this for the long haul then

Thanks all!

4yo DS just moved into a toddler bed at the end of our bed. 2yo DD still co sleeping.

Just make it work for you. Separate duvets, cot attached to bed, bigger bed....

18 month old DD still comes into our bed every 4 or so nights.
DS never did this so it's been a new thing for us but we figure she won't be doing it when she is 4.

I had a similar challenge with my DD & took the path of least resistance & continued. What I would say is that I would face it sooner rather than later & go through the pain (sleep deprivation) & preserver snow, while they're young as it will get harder the longer you leave it.
Good luck xx

age 11 when she finally went to boarding school but she still sneaks back in during the holidays! 🤣