Is my DD (4) just lazy with her night time nappy?

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

DD has been toilet trained for well over a year now but has always worn a nappy at night. She has never had a dry night so I didn't see the point.

I did start to try her without and she has only had two dry nights (once where she didn't get up at all and another time when she did go to the loo during the night). Every other time has been wet. Sometimes warm wet so it's recent or sometimes almost dry suggesting that she did it sometime in the middle of the night.

I got utterly fed up stripping the bed every morning and put her back in nappies however I'm wondering if she's at it a bit. Tonight I put her to bed and she's been up three times to say she's not tired, or wanting a cuddle, the usual when she just doesn't want to go to sleep. This time I noticed that she had wet her nappy. I asked her why she didn't go to the loo and she just laughed and said she was too tired and sleepy to. Is she just being lazy and gotten so used to her nappy she knows she can pee without too much fuss?

Should I just go for broke and wake her during the night to take her to the loo? To be honest I can see it far enough as I'm never sure exactly when she pees so if I'm too late I'm going to have to change the sheets in the middle of the night and possible again in the morning. I've got a 2.9 DS who I'm trying to get interested in potty training (to no avail) and I'm just utterly fecking sick of fecking nappies.

Sorry bout the length

I do sympathise with you. It could just be a bit of laziness on her part as she knows she has a nappy to rely on so why bother getting up.
How about taking her to the loo when you go to bed and set an alarm for the night time and wake and take her again.
I am clueless here as dd went through the night when i realised she was just bone lazy and peeing in her nappy first thing in the morning rather than getting up and doing it in the right place. So I just took it away and it worked for her. Thats not to say it will work but....
do you have a mattress protector on the bed? if so try taking the nappy away.

if it makes you feel any better ds is showing no intrest in potty training whatsoever

you could give no nappies at night another try, but if she wets when she's asleep there's nothing she or you can do but wait for her to grow out of it. being dry at night is a physical maturity thing - at some point your dd will produce a hormone that concentrates her urine when she's asleep so that she doesn't need a wee. it's not usually a behavioural problem. not that that helps you much when you're drowning in nappies.......

My DD was dry during the day at 24 months. PT took less than 3 days.

She is noy 5y6m and has only be consistently dry at night for the past 6 months. Even nore she has the odd wet night - if she is poorly (probably very deep sleep) and or if she drinks anything other than plain water from about 3pm. The latter is a very big factor for her we have found.

DD had reusable pull up pants at night until she was 4. We then moved to bed squares - washable rectangles, like mattress protector material, from Mothercare. We also have a matress protector on her bed. The bed mats are ideal though as they go on top of the sheet, so if she wets you only have to change the square and nothing more.

DD has been desperate to be dry at night for a long long time - from before she was 3yo. But no matter how much she has wanted to do it, it just hasn't happened.

IMo you can't train for night time dryness. It just happens - waiting for that special hormone to kick in.

She has always been a sound sleeper so maybe she is wee-ing in her sleep.

I do have a mattress protector on. I'm becoming a bit of a test driver for most of them. Still not convinced I've found one that's entirely waterproof but c'est la vie. If it was just the bottom sheet I wouldn't mind so much but she curls up in her duvet so the duvet cover is always damp too and then the duvet itself reeks of pee so needs a good airing.

I've tried the throwaway bed mats too but she seemed to like them and if she knew there was one on it seemed to have the same effect as having a nappy i.e. she knew is was OK to wee. Even with that I always had to put it under the bottom sheet 1. to disguise it's presence and 2. to stop it moving.

Sigh!!!!!! So this hormone - does it kick in anytime from the age of 2-7 then?

I'm with Hula. Ds is four and there is no sign of him being dry at night - his pyjama pant pull up things are always full of wee in the morning. I have no plans to push this at all, don't want to risk getting into some hideous cycle of stress/worry/even more laundry.

Yes, hormone generally kicks in sometime between 18 months and 7 years old. GPs generally not interested until child is 7yo.

For us it just isn't an issue. We have never made it an issue. DD so wants to be dry all the time. It'd be great if she could have pop, milk or hot choolate int he faternooon/evening, but she herself has decided - generally - that she won't due to her desperation to be dry. If she wets the bed mat and PJ bottoms are simply removed and replaced, with no more than a "oh dear, never mind".

I am sure that one day it will all ick and we will have dry nights all the time, not just when her drink types are controlled. But until then, nothing we can do, so why worry.

So long as when she is an older teenager, and can enjoy a night out with a few drinks, without having accidents thhen - we should be fine