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[blessedmamaforever]

Hello all,
I'm not sure if I've posted in the right place but I'm looking for some reassurance from other parents with kids who are really close, my two daughters are 23 months apart and are the best of friends and are so close which I love and will continue to encourage but since the beginning of the first lockdown in March, they've wanted to sleep together in the same bed every night even though they have had their own bedrooms since they where each born. They're both very independent kids and when they sleep together, they don't mess about or anything, they go straight to sleep so it doesn't cause any problems at all, I'm just wondering if I should split them up. It started as a few cute sleep overs in each other's rooms but it's stuck.
Thank you in advance for your help, Chloe ☺️

Hell if it gets you all through bloody Covid why rock the boat??

If they are both happy and sleeping well then I don't see the problem?

How old are they?

I don’t see the problem though. There were years between me and my sister and we still shared a bed sometimes. Perhaps one of them is having nightmares?

This will create such lovely bonding memories for them that will carry them through any arguments or disputes as adults.

I guess maybe just check that their reasons for doing it don’t stem from some anxiety eg over Covid.

I think it's lovely - it's not causing any issues, let them carry on!!

It's such a modern western thing for everyone to have their own room. Yes, good for privacy when older, but smaller kids mostly want to be with their family, including at night.

As a dm with dd's 15 months apart I say enjoy it while it lasts!! At 14 +15 fun friendly times are a long distant memory!!

Leave them to it.

They will out grow it in a couple of years.

As a PP said it is a very western idea that people particularly children sleep alone in a room.

Another who thinks this is a lovely thing. If it's covid anxiety related, it's brilliant that they are supporting each other. If they are happy and it's not affecting their sleep, if leave them to it. Stopping them might make them feel as though they're doing something wrong, which they're not.

I've got one DD at secondary (just) and one in yr3 and they still sleep together any chance they get, despite always having separate rooms. I've told the older one she can say no, but honestly, they just love hanging out with each other. I just let them get on with it, where's the harm?

@crazychemist

How old are they?

I don’t see the problem though. There were years between me and my sister and we still shared a bed sometimes. Perhaps one of them is having nightmares?

They are 4 and 6 years old

It sounds lovely and you’re doing the right thing following their lead. Do you have a DP/DH you share a bed with? It’s completely natural DH’s healthy to prefer sleeping next to someone else.

When I left my ex husband I moved in with my sister and her friend and slept in my sister’s bed or on the sofa and have such happy memories of sleeping next to her at a shit vulnerable time in my life. We were in our 30s I was lying awake one night worrying and she turned over mostly asleep, held my hand and nodded off again. Cherish their bond.

@Coronawireless

I guess maybe just check that their reasons for doing it don’t stem from some anxiety eg over Covid.

I'm going to have a chat with them both to make sure, we also have another little princess due next month so hubby and I want to make sure they're prepared and ready for the changes that will come with that too

Thanks a lot for the suggestions so far, hubby and I are loving Myla so far and I think Fea is gonna be her middle name, I'm starting to really love all the names look and sound together!
Hallie Rea
Lillia Mea
Myla Fea

@blessedmamaforever

Thanks a lot for the suggestions so far, hubby and I are loving Myla so far and I think Fea is gonna be her middle name, I'm starting to really love all the names look and sound together! Hallie Rea Lillia Mea Myla Fea

wrong post oops 😂

Fea is Spanish for ugly, just so you know!

@theconstantinoplegardener

Fea is Spanish for ugly, just so you know!

Oh dear 😂 thanks for letting me know!