Losing my mind-baby sleep

[Pinkmoon33]

Hi all. Any advice please welcome. My 4 month old is going through what I think is called the 4 month sleep regression. He used to only wake twice at night (2am and 4am) but now it's all over the place. What's making me most upset is the fact he no longer stays asleep for daytime naps. I spend 20 mins -an hour getting him to nap, he only sleeps on me in a sling or on my shoulder then he sleeps for 20-30 mins and wakes. I am so pluckin tired I can barely stand up. I feel like such a shit mum today because he woke crying in his sling after 10 mins and I tried to soothe him, feed him and put him back down again and he wouldn't stop crying. i just want to sleep but because he doesn't nap in the day anymore I can't catch up on my sleep and because he wakes up so much at night I can't sleep then either. I love him but feel guilty about how angry I feel right now. This feels like being slowly tortured. Please help with any tips or advice. Please

Hi OP,

I held DC1 for naps (in order to sort out his night time sleep).

Had his bedroom set up with blackout blinds, armchair, little table with laptop and Netflix set up. Would rock him to sleep and have white noise on my phone playing (free YouTube video of someone shushing).

Sometimes he would fight the nap and it'd take 20mins before he nodded off, other times it'd be couple of pats and off.

I'd then watching something on Netflix, while he's sleeping on me in a dark room - I look back on those fondly now.

At 4 months he was on 3 naps:

07:00 - wake up
09:30 -11:00 - nap 1
13:00 - 15:00 - nap 2
17:00 - 17:30 - nap 3
19:00 - down for bed

For bedtime I was able to feed to sleep at that age. And was down to one or two feeds a night, if he didn't feed to sleep then rocking worked. All these "sleep associations" were easy to phase out.

Good luck!