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Do your opposite sex DCs get on well?

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secondorange · 04/01/2021 14:45

Hiya, just found out I am pregnant with #2. I have a DD already who will have just turned 3 when the baby is born. I'd really like another girl now that I have one as I have all the clothes and whatnot, plus I have it in my head somehow that my DD may be able to relate a bit more to a younger DD.

Am I just being silly? I'm a bit worried that if I have a DS they may not be as close as if they were same sex.

If anyone has one of each and can speak about how your DCs interact with one another I'd appreciate it. I'm aware I probably sound irrational but I'm stressed and pregnancy hormones aren't helping etc. etc.

Thank you xx

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Lovelymonkeyninetynine · 04/01/2021 14:46

They get on amazingly well my 2. Similar gap.
It helps that they each have a special role 'best boy' and 'best girl' and it's honestly wonderful.
Good luck and congratulations xx

GhostPenguin · 04/01/2021 14:51

I have a 2 year age gap, the boy is the eldest. They are 9 and 7. They are the absolute best of friends and always have been. They play together constantly, never argue, and genuinely love each other. Having said that, I personally think it massively depends on each child's temperament and how you manage their relationship. DS has always been very patient with DD, to the point where we've had to intervene sometimes and say "you always have to give in to her you know!" He usually just shrugs and says he doesn't mind

GhostPenguin · 04/01/2021 14:52

Don't* always that should be!

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Herja · 04/01/2021 14:56

6 and 8. They are each other's absolute best friend; they play for hours and hours every day, have secrets, special games and plans, sometimes special bits of language. They do argue and fight, but on the whole the love they have for each other, and their emense bond, is the most wonderful thing to see.

DappledThings · 04/01/2021 16:40

3 and nearly 5. Thick as thieves. Play together all the time, miss each other since DS started school. Love to cuddle each other as much as they cuddle us. Sing to each other when they are tired or feeling I'll.

llovetheshippingforecast · 04/01/2021 17:12

Yep.. always have been delightful to each other. Honestly NEVER a mean word or action. 19 months apart. Oldest is girl , younger boy.

Now 23 and 25 and still the same .

TweeterandtheMonkeyman · 04/01/2021 17:18

Yep besties here 😄 Mine are 10 and 7 now & will still happily play together/ cuddle up and watch a film / have a disco etc etc. They have similar interests so in spite of DD being 10 going on 15 she’s still happy to dress up as Harry Potter/ play the same online games. . I think they may go their separate ways in the teenage years but I think they’ll always fundamentally get on - well I hope!!

formerbabe · 04/01/2021 17:21

In all honesty, no they don't really get on...very occasionally they bond over something. They're currently watching a film together but the divide has grown as they've grown.

BlossomCat · 04/01/2021 17:29

21 and 19 year old young man and woman here. They have been best buddies forever, they have each other's backs and can gossip for hours together.
There have been fallings out about trivial things in the past, but they've been easily sorted, and their loyalty to each other has continued throughout their lives.

princessjasmineofagrabah · 04/01/2021 17:33

Dd6 ds3 4 in feb. Absolute best of friends, still share a room as we have a 2 bed. Most evenings I find them snuggled up in bed together. Honestly their bond is amazing.

Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 04/01/2021 17:37

Dd 12 and ds 11, absolutely love each other, they're so close my heart bursts watching them. Such love I've never before seen, it makes me so happy.

QuantumJump · 04/01/2021 17:41

It varies.... I have three DC, two boys and a girl. The girl gets on really well with one of her brothers and has a love hate relationship with the other one!

Cotswoldmama · 04/01/2021 17:44

My husband and his sister get on well. I never got on with my sister growing up most sisters I know didn't like each other growing up either! As adults we get on though. Lots of brothers I know are really close and each other's best men. I guess it all comes down to personalities really.

nicky2512 · 04/01/2021 17:47

Dd almost 19 and ds 15 are great friends and always were. Dd is definitely the boss and ds is a lot quieter but they get on great. She helps him with homework and he fetches stuff from the kitchen for her!!
They played together a fair bit when they were small and still would play games on occasion and are currently watching a film together.
Dd makes sure ds is correctly dressed before he goes out as he can be fairly dodgy when it comes to putting an outfit together!
They are total opposites but are great friends.
It’s really nice and I hope it lasts forever.

UglyHoose · 04/01/2021 17:48

They get on in the sense that they don't fight or argue and have each other's backs but aren't 'friends' as there is a 5 year age gap between them so they didn't play together.

Minikievs · 04/01/2021 17:49

God I feel like an outcast saying this but mine argue CONSTANTLY!
3.5 year age gap, DS eldest DD youngest
Sometimes they play together lovely. But generally they argue non bloody stop. Sorry.

titchy · 04/01/2021 17:53

Boy/girl here. Two year gap. Get on well, visit each other at uni, confide in each other, get drunk together HmmGrin

formerbabe · 04/01/2021 17:53

@Minikievs

God I feel like an outcast saying this but mine argue CONSTANTLY! 3.5 year age gap, DS eldest DD youngest Sometimes they play together lovely. But generally they argue non bloody stop. Sorry.
Mine too.

They can be vile to each other but quite sweetly would defend each other if anyone else was being vile to them!

Swearwolf · 04/01/2021 17:56

3.5 year age gap here and they get on so well, they're just great buddies.

I firmly believe it doesn't matter what the age gap is or which sex they are, whether they get on is down to personality.

SnoopyMcLoopy · 04/01/2021 17:56

15 DD and 13 DS - they have their moments but get on well most of the time. Think it's more to do with personality than girl/boy

Aquamarine1029 · 04/01/2021 17:58

23yo son and 21yo daughter. They have adored each other from the start and still do.

BonnesVacances · 04/01/2021 17:59

DD(19) and DS(16) get on like a house on fire. They squabbled a bit when they were younger, but nothing major. They are very close now and have similar interests.

Babyfg · 04/01/2021 18:01

18 months between my boy and girl. They honestly are little buddies. Helps each other, support each other, share etc. They have the odd tiff but it's over within seconds. However if you ask if they love the other one it's always no 🤔

I agree with previous poster that it is down to temperament and how they're supported by the parents etc. If we didn't intervene at times I think my daughter would have been lead and said by her more assertive brother! Now she definitely has a voice and airs it!

BackforGood · 04/01/2021 18:02

I think it is down to personality /character rather than sex.
I have boy, girl, girl. they have all fought, growing up, but all played together too. There is no more 'closeness' between the two girls than the relationship with their brother. In fact, I'd say the boy probably gets on with each of his sisters slightly more than the two girls. They are adults now and all get on brilliantly now they don't live together 24 / 7

Lua · 04/01/2021 18:03

yes. My DCs get along much beteer than I ever did with my "dear" sister.

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