7 year old doesn't like his dad

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For the last few years our 7 year old has been almost indifferent to his dad. If my husband goes to give him a hug then he shrugs him off, if my husband asks to play a game he gets a shrug or a no
My son is all over me though.. he almost seems to think that he can't show his dad any affection in front of me.
I'm finding it hard to know what to do
We have an older son who isn't like this at all. My husband is father to both boys and we have a normal marriage like most people. We aren't pushovers nor are we overly strict. We are both on the same page too with parenting which helps but we aren't sure what to do about this..
Any advice would be appreciated
My husband has tried to spend extra time with him and play what he wants.. my husband does like to play fight but our 7 year old got over rough with him so I said maybe he should stop the play fighting.
I feel like I can't see the wood for the trees as I can't work out why he's like it.
When my husband goes out alone with him they have a great time..
It's like I'm the problem?
Any advice please?

I think this is quite normal.

I have two sons, coming up 4 and 7 and when we are all at home together they show complete indifference towards my husband.

They want me all the time, they only want to play with me, they only want to sit with me, whenever they want something it’s me they ask for it, they only want to cuddle me, it’s only me they want to put them to bed and read to them etc and in general they seem to show a real preference for me.

However, when I’m not there they have the best time with their dad!!!! They all have so much fun together, they go on trips out together, they say how fun and exciting their dad is and they all have a great bond with each other.

But then when I reappear it’s like dad doesn’t exist again.

Thankfully my husband doesn’t take it to heart and we don’t let it bother us. Children can be complex and fickle.

Has he said anything about his dad that concerns you? As in why he is acting the way he does? Is he aware of how dismissive he may be appearing towards his dad?

Good to know.. I thought it might just pass though and it hasn't really.
We've mainly ignored it and just carried on but today me and my husband chatted and he said it does upset him sometimes.
I've asked my son why he does it and he said he doesn't know. I asked if he likes daddy and he said yes and he says he loves him but actions are speaking louder than words at the minute!!
I've told my husband to get a hobby for just the two of them that is nothing to do with me if that helps although they go off exploring together and have a fab time but nothing changes

Any other advice would be welcomed..

So pleased I've come across this thread. My little boy is the same... it's so hard.
My husband tried so hard and our son is so uninterested. No idea what to do

When I was little I had a much stronger relationship with my mum over my dad for no obvious reason. Apparently as a baby I wouldn't let him hold me and it just carried on from there something that used to always bother me and probably even pushed me further away was when family members asked me about it. I remember feel embarrassed and self conscious even as a child. I know as an adult now that I felt responsible as a child... thats not fair is it?!
Nobody came from a bad place asking me, it must've been so hard for my Dad, but I suppose the reason why I'm sharing this is just to say be careful having conversations with your children about this sort of thing and try and find other ways to either support your partner or find mutual ground with each other. I do think it can be normal for a child to go through phases with parents depending on what they need!

Have you about your son what he thinks is happening?

Apologies to jump on this post but if love some advice about how to approach this
My son just seems disinterested in his dad, my husband makes plenty of effort to engage him but to no avail. Do we just continue as we are as our son is happy but just not really interested in his dad