Partner advice needed

[Blondeyoghurt]

Hey girls,

Me and my partner seem to be going through a bit of a rough patch and today he’s come out with how he’s sick of coming hone to the house in a ‘state’. He’s said I clearly have enough free time to keep the house clean aswell as looking after our 6 month old! (I can’t even be out of her eyesight without her crying atm)

What do you think to this? Is he right?

I feel like I’m going stir crazy!

Depends what he means by the house being a ‘state’ really, although the ‘free time’ comment would have pissed me off.

Is he just being vindictive?

He made a comment about me not putting the washing out to dry. Like that’s the first thing in my mind when I’ve got a needy baby lol. Honestly I don’t know what he was thinking saying that

Sounds really mean. I have a 4.5 month old and my husband doesn't expect me to do any housework, although I do as much as i possibly can (washing, washing up, odd bit of vacuuming, cleaning bathrooms occasionally). He does a big clean of the house on his days off. He says I don't get a day off so why should he (although he does go off cycling etc when he wants). Sounds like your partner doesn't grasp how much work it is to look after a baby, especially when they're screaming if you're not in sight.

He’ll come home from work and have her for all of about 20mins before losing his temper because she’s so needy. But it’s suppose to be a walk in the park for me lol

If he's not even willing to spend 20 minutes with her then he should be stepping up and helping with cleaning otherwise what is his contribution to your partnership.

I know, he’ll come home and do the washing up but then moan that he’s had to do that and I haven’t done it in the day. It’s lose lose for me

Why doesn’t he take a week off work and you leave the house every day at 8am then come back around 6pm and behave like he currently is towards you.

That should do the trick

Is he living in the 1950s...??