Anyone else in the thick of the Terrible Twos?

[ArtemisBean]

It's been brewing for a while, but this winter DS has well and truly hit the Terrible Twos. Probably not helped by rubbish weather, lockdown etc. I know it's just a phase but my God, I'm exhausted. And nearly 8 months pregnant which makes it harder. We try to stay calm and model good behaviour, but DH can get so frustrated and cross with him when he's having a strop, then I get upset because I hate cross words... it's so horrid. Anyone else finding this age really tough??

Yep, terrible two's here. Five weeks of it so far and its driving me up the wall. Everything I ask her to do it either met with a simple 'no" or just blatant ignoring me. Insisting on her doing anything just results in almighty tantrums. I try pick my battles but its bloody relentless. Everything is just exhausting. I have absolutely no advice (I'm pretty much about to start another thread hoping someone wiser than me can offer something to help) but I know how your feeling.

I just keep telling myself 'this too shall pass'. Apparantly DD is lovely at nursery, so I just live in hope that one day she comes home from their and forgets to turn into a tiny, angry whirlwind.

My two year old has taken up the mantle like he was born to do it. He throws things ....a lot. If he isn't satisfied with how far it went he will stomp over to it and throw it again.
If you tell him no he immediately lies face down on the floor. If you try and pick him up he turns to liquid and floomps all over the place so you can't get a grip of him.
He did it yesterday in the middle of a muddy field. My mum said - leave him he will follow. He didn't. We were about 100 metres away (we were the only ones in the field) and he just got up and walked in the opposite direction. I had to sprint after him and when I reached him he laid down face first in the mud again.
Good job he is cute or I would have marched him back to hospital with his red book and demanded a refund.

My DD does that put walking, everyone is insistent that if I leave her she will eventually follow. She won't. She could not care less that we're not with her

Oh god, were in the middle of it. Lockdown makes it so much harder! Today felt a million years long. I'm bored, he's bored, everyone's bored and grumpy... Sharing your pain.

Oh man, I'm so glad I'm not alone, although I really feel for you all too! Really hoping it's a brief phase and not something that lasts until they're 3. I think the hardest part is seeing how stressed DH gets with it all. He's such a laid-back guy, DS must be really pressing his buttons to get him to the point where he yells at him 🙁 I feel like I'm having to talk them both down!

I'm hoping I only get the terrible twos and not the (emotional) terrorist threes. I used to nanny and while two was hard, three was something else. I'm not sure with my own willful angry tornado I could survive three honestly.

I hear ya OP. Mine is in the terrible twos and approaching threenager 😑
He is tired a lot of the time due to a medical condition so that makes everything feel harder.
He's started throwing things, including at his little sister and me.
If he doesn't like what you have said, he lies down on the floor, thumb in mouth and closes his eyes.
Another one here who turns to liquid and floomps if you try and pick him up. How do they do that??! It's like they suddenly have no bones 🤷
Today involved nap refusal (he is nearly 3 I accept but with his medical condition, he can't cope without one) and therefore also dinner refusal, except for some small bites.
I feel like I need a beach holiday to recover from the last few days

When I’m struggling with mine I try to think about how shit it must be being 2 sometimes. So few choices, so many things done to them, but they are now smart enough to understand how they can influence the world around them. And their emotions are just biiiiig! I remember assuming that my eldest wouldn’t have big tantrums as she was really verbal and I thought she’d just express herself. It possibly helped at times, but really it was just about the big emotions that she didn’t know how to handle. They really do just feel genuinely so upset when you put the sandwich the wrong way on their plate!! They just need us to be with these feelings and help them navigate their way through them. It’s sooo exhausting tho innit. I find myself avoiding things that she will object to which is not a great idea in long run. Mine also does the floomp- how do they all learn that? We call it toddler spaghetti

I'm there with you OP, my dd is almost 2 and half and I've got a 10 day old baby, and the terrible twos tantrums are real right now. I'm guessing a mixture if becoming a big sister, Christmas, out of routine, too many treats and too much to have contributed to how bad she's been the last week or so but my god it is exhausting. She doesn't stop from the second she opens her eyes, doesn't nap at all, and says my name so many times a day I feel like I could cry. Between a fussy newborn and her I dont get a minutes peace and the jobs that I used to have done by 10am now take me all day because she wants something constantly

Its so hard! My eldest genuinely never tantrummed or stropped, she was so chilled and easy and I thought it was down to my excellent parenting DD2 was another lovely, calm baby so I thought I'd hit the jackpot but now shes 2 shes just lost the plot! Still happy but just absolutely nothing will make her do as she's told, doesnt give a shit about either consequences or bribery, will happily be left in the park rather than leave before shes ready (doesnt even look back) and if she doesnt want to sleep then no chance in hell is anyone in this house sleeping. Doesn't want to walk? Lies down on the floor and pretends to be asleep. Doesn't want to get in her pram? Flops like a fish out of water and rags at the straps like a horse thats been lasood. I'm lucky that she very rarely cries but my well behaved, pliable little chilled out baby has disappeared and it makes me really scared for how chaotic life will be once her baby sister is born next month!