Can I ask what your 9 year olds are like & how you deal with them.
My 9 year old spends time with me & at his dads. Daddy is always buying him stuff & taking him out (even though I know exactly how much debt he's in) & Daddy let's him get away with anything.
When he's here he's always moaning he's bored. We've got an xbox, laptop, he's got a tablet, board games, lego, books etc etc.
Even before covid we didn't really go on many days out due to the cost (even to afford to put petrol in the car to go somewhere different for a walk was a struggle financially sometimes), I've always tried to explain to him we can't constantly be spending money & sometimes we have to stay home.
He seems to understand about the virus (not seeing family etc) but his constant moaning he's board is getting very draining (not many places to walk here)
As a one off this week my other half has been working nights so we've had to be a bit quiter during the day, all I get is "I hate being quite". He's blaming me for the OH working hours this week, told him its not my fault, actually I get blamed for everything.
Hes a great big brother to my 2 year old (will do anything for him) but hes constantly asking him for a cuddle, trying to pick him up, making him sit on his lap etc, (my OH hates him constantly trying to pick him up) I've told him just to leave him alone & play with him rather than constantly trying to touch him all the time & he just goes off in a strop.
Every little thing I say to him he just 'goes off on one'. Nothing ever seems to be good enough & he moans/ has a strop over pretty much everything, its awful to say but its such a relief when he goes to his dads. Anyone else get this or just me?