How much longer will he want to snuggle for?

[musicalfrog]

Still snuggle my boy to sleep every other night (take turns with his dad) and wondering how much longer we'll have this privilege.

He's nearly 8.

Feeling a bit melancholy tonight, the wine hadn't helped. We went through a traumatic birth together all that time ago and I feel so close to him. Don't want it to end.

Mine's nearly 10 and still likes a snuggle at bedtime, so I reckon you've got at least a couple of years to go

What a sweet post!

No idea though I'm afraid, just watching the other replies with interest, as my DS is only 2.

Erm,I thought you had a toddler and was going to say that about five he may start pushing you of occasionally....so...er...if you've got to 8 and he still needs snuggled to bed then I dunno

as long as its what he wants and youre ok with it, then I dont see the harm. My kids are older than that, and still occasionally one of them will get into my bed and sleep there, and I just remind myself that one of these times will be the last time they ever do it, and it all goes by faster than you think.

@Branleuse

as long as its what he wants and youre ok with it, then I dont see the harm. My kids are older than that, and still occasionally one of them will get into my bed and sleep there, and I just remind myself that one of these times will be the last time they ever do it, and it all goes by faster than you think.

😭

Thanks @Eggsley and @sittingonacornflake ❤️

@sparklefarts he doesn't 'need' it always, sometimes I sit on the floor at his request, but we both still mostly enjoy a snuggle!

Ooh I hope mine still snuggles me at 8, currently still snuggling at 4. Long may it continue 🤞🏾

My son is almost 17 and still loves a quick snuggle sometimes 😂

Bedtime snuggles are my favourite time of the day. Especially if the day has been tough for any reason. Finishing the day all safe and warm and cosy and loving is just so Nice. My DS is 7. I will be v sad when he outgrows it

Mine is 12 and bigger than me with hairy armpits and all sorts
He still loves a cuddle and will come in my room and lie on my bed (no longer naked) while I scratch his back
I think you stand a chance of it lasting longer if you offer massages

Still snuggling at 12

Mine's nearly 9 and has just sat on my knee / laid across me for the whole of a Harry Potter film.

Snuggles in at bed time and jumps in for a morning cuddle too

My 11yo still comes in for a snuggle sometimes and if DH is working away we have a sleepover at least once a week. I love it. Shes little miss popular, gobby, thinks shes a teenager, too cool for school all day but when she comes into bed for a snuggle then she's still my little baby girl

13...I'm just going with it 😁

Proper bawling at these replies! Thank you so so much! Got a 4yo girl too so snuggles every night with two beautiful little people. It really is the best way to end the day isn't it! We are so lucky.

@musicalfrog
My DS was just like yours....wanted a snuggle regularly. My DD hated to snuggle...when she got older she told me she felt very claustrophobic when I had my arms wrapped around her.
DS needed that contact to feel safe in the World....
I decided to never ever push him away if he felt the need for it, but I never initiated it.. always let him decide.
Some people are just more affectionate than others or need the security of touch.
I can remember thinking, "oh my Lord, this child is never going to leave home and go out into the World"....just the opposite turned out to be true. When he was ready and felt secure enough he flew the coop big time! He's now my most independent DC!
Just enjoy it whilst you have the opportunity and when he does feel like he's ready to disengage a bit, rejoice with him as it means he's developing the courage to take on the world which is what we as parents strive for....to have our DC be able to live independent of us

I just read through my pp and hope that people don't think I allowed my DS to demand a snuggle at his whim and that I'd always obilge....not the case at all...I definitely taught him to respect other people's boundaries especially to respect the boundaries of women!
Its hard to explain now that I've seen the spin that could be put on what I wrote about DS....definitely not my intention and I definitely didn't allow him feel entitled to it.( Ugg, expressive language disorder that I suffer from is a pain!)

Im so jealous. My 3 year old has not been a snuggler for a long time. Just pushes me away. My 6 month old is very cuddly and I really don't want it to every stop!

Mine is 19 and still cuddles up on the sofa and will come into our bed for a snuggle in the morning on the rare occasions that we are still in bed when he gets up. You could be lucky! My older son is in his early 20s now and is not so cuddly but even he will still occasionally have a hug with his dad while watching the footie on TV.

@Sweetpea1532 I didn't read it like that at all 😊 I totally get you, and I think my ds will also be a confident flyer when the time ultimately comes. I thought your post was beautiful!

My son is also 8 and is very much more tactile than his sister. I think we've got a year left maybe?

My five year old still has a cuddle to sleep most nights, I’ll really miss it when he decides he doesn’t want it anymore. Just make sure you make the most of everything cuddle you get.

I’m writing this while lying on a giant teddy bear under my DS’ cabin bed after stroking his face to sleep. He’s 6.5. He’s never fallen asleep without me apart from when I was in hospital having his little sister! He doesn’t like to fall asleep on his own yet.

@Ontopofthesunset

Mine is 19 and still cuddles up on the sofa and will come into our bed for a snuggle in the morning on the rare occasions that we are still in bed when he gets up. You could be lucky! My older son is in his early 20s now and is not so cuddly but even he will still occasionally have a hug with his dad while watching the footie on TV.

Ahh wonderful ❤️

My nearly 7 year old is currently tucked up in my bed after some snuggles. He spent a lot of time snuggling me on the sofa today, and while we were building models earlier he stopped for a cuddle and sit on my knee. He’s definitely my most affectionate child. He loves soft toys and that love he has for them is actually visible. He just loves cuddling! I never want this loving affection he has to stop.