Nightmare bedtime for 20 month old, please help

[Jenga0808]

I’m on the edge right now, I’m really struggling to cope. DD is 20 months old and still breastfeeding. I have tried so many things to get her to sleep without feeding to sleep but it’s almost impossible. She’ll go to sleep in her cot if I spend ages going in and out of the room but she screams the moment I leave her. We’ve just had an hour long stand off where I’ve tried to not feed her to sleep and she’s just screamed the house down. I can’t take it any more. She wakes up multiple times in the night. I bring her into my bed because I’m so exhausted but she climbs all over me and feeds all night long so I still don’t really get a rest. Please help, I need to break this habit. Has anyone else had a similar problem?

Oh dude this sounds rubbish as someone who has just managed to get my three year old out of my bed I can't give any advice. This sounds really hard abs rubbish though big hugs xx

I had this, it's easy for me to day but you have to be strong.

It takes about three to five nights

My advice would be to feed her in a different room, settle her down in her cot, sit next to her, plug some ear phones in and listen to an audio book. Then repeat during the night, offer her water to drink in a non spill bottle.

My daughter was waking 8 times a night and I had to change something drastically

Aww it's tough with a little one .

Does she have a routine for bedtime and has she from the start?.

Also does she have a dummy ?, Comforter, white noise anything like that .

I think the best thing you can do if you can is to get a partner/someone else ? to feed her from a bottle a few times , formula or pumped so she is not reliant and as clingy to you ?.
Sorry if you already bottle feed.

My son was quite reliant on the bottle to sleep however we let him have it if he wanted it still.

What we did was something like this .
(Obviously every baby different)

Daytime we spaced the feeds even if just 5 or 10 mins longer we would hang them out abit .

Then come the evening he would have 10 ounces at about 7pm bottle fed to sleep , then at around 11pm or before we would wake him or if awake feed him another 10 ounces , we tried to leave him to cry it out it was horrendous for a whole night . We just fed him to sleep , he did wake every 2 hours as a young baby then gradually with a dummy he weaned off off needing so much . By the age of 2 he was fully off the bottle however we always fed him a bottle before bed and put him down just that second before he was about to be asleep.

Have you made sure baby is getting enough ? If you are breastfeeding ?
Xxx