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DS1 just wants daddy all the time since ds2 has been born

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Anya201 · 26/12/2020 16:43

I’m having a really difficult time. Ds2 is 7 weeks old, had tongue tie and I had to triple feed. Still doing one bottle of formula at night but breastfeeding the rest of the time and he is sleeping fairly well with one or two wake ups in the night after 9pm. I just am beating myself up about not breastfeeding fully and feel guilty all the time. We’ve had a lot of nursery closure with ds1 having to isolate three times in the last 2 months due to COVID cases in his nursery class. Daddy has had to be very hands on with ds1 since my late pregnancy and I had a c section. We had little family help bc ds1 had to isolate several times. He is constantly saying he wants daddy and often says go away mummy. I used to do everything before for him and still do all his meals in the time that I’m not breastfeeding. I’m just feeling like a lousy mother, missing the time with elder ds and my husband makes me feel awful about how I’m not spending enough time with ds1 even though I am trying my best. I feel like I’m the one on the outside. All I feel is guilt all the time.

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peapotter · 26/12/2020 19:09

How old is ds1?

All of mine go through phases of just wanting one parent. It will change again. Just be glad that it isn’t the other way around and ds1 is clingy when you have a baby.

Sounds like your dh isn’t used to it, sorry he’s making you feel guilty.

No mum guilt is needed. It’s great that your ds1 has a good relationship with his dad, that’s good parenting. He will come back to you (and then you’ll want the opposite again).

Anya201 · 26/12/2020 20:52

Thanks, but I don’t know how to get rid of the guilty feeling. If he injured himself - he just wants daddy cuddle not mummy. He’s 28 months old.

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