DS (29m) toilet trained apart from persistent (quite big) damp patches. Advice pleeeease..

[Currypowder]

Advice please or tell me this is just plain normal.

We toilet trained DS several weeks ago and he has now progressed himself from potty to toilet and always does his poos at his own initiation in the loo. (Potty is still available and in sight).

Wees are another matter. Rarely does he initiate a visit himself in time. The norm is that either I notice a damp patch and take hime or he tells me he wants a wee but is too late there is a damp patch but will do the rest in the loo.

I have to coax him to use the toilet to avoid these accidents but feel I am not helping him learn to go himself.

I FEEL I have tried everything. But really am open to suggestions from you guys.

Over to you.......(crossing fingers hoping for magic wand type cure!!!)

An evening bump.

Seriously ANY advice (including chanting mantras) will do.

PS. Have tried leaving the wet pants on --doesn't notice it.
Have tried leaving his pants and trousers off (at home) and he never wets himself.

Washing machine is in overdrive!

You could have just described my dd1 there (when we started potty training her).

Personally, I would say your ds isn't ready. Especially as he doesn't go to the toilet without encouragement, and doesn't care if he's wet.

It took a good year for dd1 to finally get the hang of it. Believe me, with dd2 I will be waiting until the absolute last-minute! She'll be toilet training herself

Hmmm, have given this some serious thought.

We were fairly confident he was ready but has almost taken a back step.

It is as if he got the hang of it then thought 'OK. Bored of that now'.

He ALWAYS has plenty of wee left in him after his damp patch.

I've never been cross (has taken a lot of tongue biting). He usually says himself 'Never mind!'

Are you sure you're not talking about my dd?

If I were you (which I'm not, obviously!) I would stop and try again in a month or two.

Otherwise it's as you say, you are the one taking responsibility for toiletting, not him. A right old hassle, IMO!

Are you sure you are not me coz you ARE our favourite book.

Hells Bells. Am I having a conversation with my own namechange. Should have paid for a few more counselling sessions! LO VERY L.

I am verging on agreeing with you (me). Does that mean a return to nappies after nearly 3 months without??

Multiple expletives and the (forbidden) third glass of wine.

Yes. Abandon pants for a while! I normally hate pull-ups but as he is pooing no problem maybe this could be a temp solution? Can still use the loo for a poo but wee in the pull-up.

OK.

I really will give this some serious thought. And thanks, I had not thought of this option.

Poor little bugger!

Poor me.

Poor world.

4th galss glass incoming.

I'm not sure if this is the same thing but my dd aged 3.5 still, over a year after we potty trained her (and she was very ready, it took 3 days) gets slightly wet pants probably on average once every 2 days. She just puts off going for a wee until she is absolutely desperate and then can't quite hold it in. Even if she is visibly in need she will deny it and then 2 minutes later say 'my pants are a little bit wet'. In our case I think it's definitely stubbornness rather than not-ready-ness.

It is annoying but she doesn't usually get the rest of her clothes wet so doesn't significantly increase my washing load.

If I were you I'd try some kind of reward system to encourage him to try to go when you suggest it, even if he doesn't do anything. I would be loath to go back to nappies after 3 months in pants.

Cheers! (Finish the bottle?)

Thankyou too alakaspree.

Having read through a few more threads I was thinking of chocolate football (Tesco's 3 packs for £1) bribary as a last resort. Tried stickers a couple of weeks ago---it obviously entertained me more than it did him.

If this fails I will
a, be alcoholic
b, seriously consider notnowbernards suggestion
c, thank god that if this is all I have to worry about at the moment then life is good
d, all of the above

Let us know how you get on, Currypowder

And don't eat all the chocolate footballs!

Aaaaaw meany..

Sure will give feedback.

Watch this space. x