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Friends son self harming

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Wapalim · 19/12/2020 22:43

My lovely friend is beside herself. Her son has recently started self harming after a horrible year with school stuff. He was being bullied by some lads at school (they were expelled and he moved schools) but this self harming is relatively new.

He isn’t doing it in secret he calls himself an ambulance each time. She’s worried about him, she’s worried he’s getting more and more attention each time he does it and he seems to enjoy being in the hospital and doesn’t want to leave. CAHMS say they can’t do anything until after Xmas/New Year. She’s beside herself, what can she do?

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Ohalrightthen · 20/12/2020 00:04

Find the money for a private inpatient stay. If he's calling an ambulance each time it's very surprising that she hasn't already been given thay as an option - is he doing significant harm?

june2007 · 20/12/2020 00:08

How about MIND can they give any advice? She needds to find out what he wants/needs. Can she help him find something to focus on/ a hobby a subject?

Wapalim · 20/12/2020 00:46

Not doing significant harm at all. Superficial cuts, 2/3 paracetamol and then calls himself an ambulance.

All his hobbies have been suspended because of Covid, he needs something else definitely

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Gardeniaofdelights · 20/12/2020 07:17

How old is he?

Wapalim · 20/12/2020 10:46

14

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PussyMalanga · 20/12/2020 11:08

@Wapalim

Not doing significant harm at all. Superficial cuts, 2/3 paracetamol and then calls himself an ambulance.

All his hobbies have been suspended because of Covid, he needs something else definitely

I'm sorry but he needs to be told firmly to stop doing this. It's a waste of an ambulance and paramedics. Of course he needs help but this sort of behaviour isn't the right way of going about getting it.
mummax3 · 20/12/2020 12:30

Aww your poor friend. Does he have any special needs? I'd tell her to keep on at docs asap. Lots of time in with him and maybe even gently talking through what might happen if he was to keep doing this ( sectioned or worse with no visitors) So awful and dangerous that CAHMS can't do anything right now,

june2007 · 20/12/2020 12:55

Sounds more about attention seeking then self harm but the worry is that a superficial cut may lead to more seriouse cuts.

Wapalim · 20/12/2020 16:20

No special needs and yes I’d agree that the fact he isn’t hiding it and is telling adults/calling an ambulance may be attention seeking. She’s beside herself

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