Looking for experiences and advice.
3 month old DS has never been majorly keen on the pram and whenever awake in it would get upset.
We’ve now changed him to the car seat which attaches to wheels so he’s more upright and can see out. When we go for walks, he gets upset within 10 mins, I put him in the sling, feed him, and he normally goes to sleep so walks are sort of OK.
He is normally OK being put in the car seat, in the car, and then for short journeys, even falls asleep. But when the car stops he tends to cry and get himself so upset. And there was a horrible time recently when my mum and I took him to the local farm shop - he got overwhelmed when there, and then screamed nearly all the way home. We’re trying to get him used to going for walks in the seat and also in the car. People’s advice in my mum’s generation would be to do it, let him cry and eventually he’ll get used to it but that doesn’t feel right.
I know if I had another child who went to school, he’d just have to get used to it as we’d have to go on the school run, but it’s almost worse that I haven’t had anything like that that forces us out every day so now constantly doubting what the right thing to do is. And seriously, if I’m told once more ‘babies don’t come with a manual’ I think I’ll scream!
I don’t know whether to start small, give him good experiences and build up, like going a little further each time, or go out, know he’ll probably get upset, and just try to comfort him through it and big cuddles when we’re home. I’m driving myself crazy trying to think of the right approach. My husband is off work for 2 weeks so trying to do something every day with him and an extra pair of hands.
Any experiences would be gratefully received - thanks very much in advance