My 3 year old has started to display some strange behaviour. I have a 4 Year diagnosed with ASD lives with dad and when they are together every other weekend and evening they just argue well my 3 year old does with his brother, screams more and even play fighting is rough. He has gone from easy toddler well he was ,of course he had his moments but wasn’t like he is now , advanced speech and no issues of anything but behaviour wise it’s like this and it’s been lately at least last few weeks, he wants me to stand at the top of the stairs until he comes down and he is in the sofa, I can’t go upstairs without him or he has melt down completely. Coming back from nursery he has to touch flowers and go back and forth and a certain way, when we get home I can’t take my coat or shoes off until he has taken of his shoes and coat. I can’t go to toilet anymore he throws a tantrum and I have to go back upstairs and he wants me to sit on the toilet again 😳 never ever has he been like this.
my 3 year old has become unrecognisable lately. His speech is great but he screams a lot and quite frankly he gets upset so quickly. Over everything. He has an obsession with flushing the toilet. He Is potty trained no accident except again last 2 weeks a couple of times and today again he said mum I’ve pooed in my underwear, So unlike him.
He will be 4 in The summer so we half way through the 3’s.
He wants to be first for anything and gets so upset if he isnt.
He has been going to overnight at his dads for 3 months and always has terrible behaviour coming back and doesn’t want me but he tells me he loves me and has missed me etc after a few hours of being back and really upsetting behaviour. I give him space and try and calm him down.
I Don’t have a good relationship with dad very emotionally abusive and he plays mind games, but I’m trying to co parent with him as best I can as we have an order in place.
Does this all sound like a phase? I know our family dynamic has changed but I’m hoping it’s not anything more than just phases. I’m exhausted. I’m not allowed to anything unless he does it first?! Forget terrible twos it’s now at 3 far worse.