Moving child into her own bedroom

[Snowball2020]

Hi everyone,
I’m hoping for some ‘reality checks’ really, because I feel like I’m struggling with the idea of moving dd into her own room (and not sleeping next to her).
We moved house a few days ago (and that’s not helped with my anxiety). She chose her colour scheme and likes her room, but we were co-sleeping until now. We decided to move her into her own room in the new house to make it easier, but I don’t think it’s easy for either of us.
She’s 4 (will be 5 in feb), but I think I just need people to tell me she is old enough to sleep in her own room on her own.
When ds moved out, it felt easier as he couldn’t sleep with baby and me (woke with crying) and he wanted to be in another room (he was 4 too).

DH thinks I’m just dragging this out and she’ll be fine in a few weeks on her own (at the moment I sleep on the floor next to her bed).

Keep feeling sad about it all

Nearly 5 is pretty old to only just be having her own room - she needs her own space and a sense of independence! What's stopping her sleeping alone, is it anxiety or fear of the dark or similar? I'd address that, and offer whatever reassurance she needs for the first couple of weeks to sleep by herself, and then slowly dial it down til you just tuck her in and head out.

I moved my girl into her own room at 6 months and in a toddler floor bed at 20 months 😳 at 4 she should be more than ready to sleep on her own. As the previous PP said, what's stopping her or you putting her in? Does she not settle? Is she scared of the dark? What makes you anxious about it? 4, nearly 5, is far from a baby or a toddler. She needs her own space, and to learn to be independent from you to be honest. You make it about how she is a big girl now, and she can have her own space to play or sit and read etc.

Thank you so much @Ohalrightthen and @MummaBear4321
It takes her a while to settle, she likes to talk and then cuddle, which is usually followed by cuddling a toy and eventually drifting off to sleep.
Once asleep, she’s generally ok. She is a restless sleeper (don’t think that’s the correct term), moves around a lot, to the point I have to make sure we have enough pillows/duvets around so if she falls doesn’t hurt herself. I have a bed rail too.

Some nights, she seems far more restless, and can get upset (doesn’t wake fully, but will start crying) so I’ll pat her back or lightly stroke her head.

I don’t remember ds being like this, so not sure if this is normal, but it makes me anxious leaving her, in case I don’t hear her (this may sound ridiculous!)

Thank you for the replies, I know she needs her space, so it’s almost more me getting over my anxiety first

Why don’t you let her fall asleep in your bed and move her to her room when she is ina deep sleep? My son stayed in my bed until he was about 6 as he liked it but eventually moved to his own room when he felt read and is happy there now.