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Feel like a rubbish mum

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NLW91 · 06/12/2020 18:39

I’m a FTM mum to a 3.5 month old baby boy who is currently going through sleep regression so is very cranky and miserable. I’ve stayed at my mums this weekend as she’s part of my support bubble and I just needed a bit of a break. Safe to say I just feel even worse than I did before. Little man has just been so whiney and crying today. I’ve held him close, fed him when he needed it and just tried to soothe. My mum has held him and played with him to keep him occupied. Gets to bedtime and he’s just throwing a tantrum and screaming in my arms. My mum dashes up and wonders what’s going on and I just say he’s so overtired from refusing naps today, I’m doing my best to calm him down. She takes him from me and says well he only cries when he is with you. May not sound that bad but when your sleep deprived that felt like a big stab in the heart. I just said thanks mum and shut the door of the bedroom and burst into tears. I just feel so rubbish and now think my son can’t settle with me and that I’m doing a bad job. I got him back off her and just have him in bed next to me now but I feel totally deflated and defeated 😢

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Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 06/12/2020 18:43

Imo hand baby back to your dm. Say yes atm he is struggling to settle. So crack on dm...
Get yourself a good night's sleep and leave her to it.

Buzzer3555 · 06/12/2020 19:21

She probably didn't mean it to hurt you. Mums can be tactless sometimes. I agree with pp. Hand baby to mum and get some rest. You are doing fine xx

Ohalrightthen · 06/12/2020 19:24

If he's overtired and cranky he's much more likely to settle for someone other than you, because he'll be able to smell your milk and he'll just be getting cross that he isn't being fed, even if he isn't hungry!

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ahhanotheryear · 06/12/2020 19:28

Definitely hand him back and sleep tonight. PP above is right they settle so much quicker when they can’t smell the milk on you.

New2020 · 07/12/2020 04:16

Mums can say the most unkind things. Your baby wants you more than anyone else in the world x he's yours before anyone else's

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