Struggling with 3.5 month old and his sleep - please help

[NLW91]

I’m a FTM. For the past 2 weeks as soon as my baby hit 3 months his sleep went to pot. He was originally doing 4-5 hour stints at beginning of the night then waking every 2-2.5 hrs afterwards for feeds. I can only assume he’s hit sleep regression early. I knew it was going to happen sooner or later but he is so cranky and miserable at the moment as he fights daytime naps. If he naps it’s only for 45 minutes at a time at the moment when he used to sleep for a good 1-2 hour block. His night time sleep he wakes every 1.5-2hrs now currently. I’m exhausted. I’m EBF and it’s exhausting trying to get him to sleep. I know that if he has rubbish day sleep it’s going to affect his night sleep and I’m just dreading bedtimes currently. To be honest I’m really not enjoying being a mum right now 😢 I know it’s not his fault and it’s because he’s growing but I feel like I’m not getting a break from this. Any advice or similar scenarios appreciated!

Ahhhh hugs, this bit is hell! Do you have help, is her Dad at home with you? We had a pretty good system to get through the sleep regression but it was definitely a 2-person job.

Sorry, his! Got DD on the brain.

@Ohalrightthen

Sorry, his! Got DD on the brain.

Yeah my husband is about but he works long hours during the day. He takes him off my hands when I’ve had no rest and takes him out for a bit in the car where if he’s lucky he may drop off for a bit. Night times the baby just wants me and he ends up in bed with me with me feeding constantly. I knew sleep regression was pants but it’s hit me like a tonne of bricks

SO for the sleep regression, we worked out how long DD could comfortably go without milk in the day (3 hours) and if she woke up sooner than that, DH went in and settled her. To start with, it didnt work because she just wanted mummy. After a few nights she started settling for him, and after a fortnight she was back to waking every 4 hours.

It meant that we were getting 4hr stretches of sleep each, which was vital, and it also meant that DD learnt to fall asleep without boob, which made breaking the feed-to-sleep habit a few months later SO much easier.

I know you said your DH works, mine does too, but he may just need to suck up the tiredness and do his bit to get you all through the next few weeks.

@Ohalrightthen

SO for the sleep regression, we worked out how long DD could comfortably go without milk in the day (3 hours) and if she woke up sooner than that, DH went in and settled her. To start with, it didnt work because she just wanted mummy. After a few nights she started settling for him, and after a fortnight she was back to waking every 4 hours.

It meant that we were getting 4hr stretches of sleep each, which was vital, and it also meant that DD learnt to fall asleep without boob, which made breaking the feed-to-sleep habit a few months later SO much easier.

I know you said your DH works, mine does too, but he may just need to suck up the tiredness and do his bit to get you all through the next few weeks.

Yeah he seems to be able to go 3 hours without a feed. I know he’s probably not hungry but currently feels like the easiest way to get him to settle. Don’t want him relying on boob though. I may give it a go. It’ll either work or not.