Baby won't sleep during the day- suggestions??

[lockdownpregnancy]

Ladies I'm going a little bonkers here!
DS is a brilliant sleeper in the evenings, so no complaints there but he fights napping during the day, ALL DAY (typing this whilst he is crying because he's fighting going to sleep!)
I take him for walks but I cant walk every single time he takes a nap, or go for a car ride. These are the only two things that get him to sleep.
He's only 10 wks old but he fights going for a nap with every ounce of his being!
Most likely why he sleeps so well during the evening because he's exhausted!
He doesn't like his Moses basket anymore as he's too big for it. I have a swing chair and I have his cot and next to me crib. He will not sleep in any of them!!
He won't even fall to sleep with me cuddling him. It's just all out war! And then the next minute he's due his bottle again. He passes out for 10 minutes after his bottle and then he's awake again and the cycle starts all over again.
I haven't tried a sling as I don't want to use one. My apologises to anyone who I may offend with this comment but I don't like them as DS will just become too attached to me and I don't want that. Seen it too many times with other moms I know.
I've tried white noise, lullaby's, total silence, sssshhhhsss, but nothing.
Any other suggestions as I'm beginning to have a constant headache with listening to him cry!!
I must add that when he does nap and is then awake for a while he's an absolute joy and such a happy little boy! But when he gets tired that's when all of the above starts! 😫
Any suggestions?

Pram indoors?
Mine will also only nap on the move, I can’t walk for every nap as have stuff to do. So I just put in pram indoors and walk around kitchen/ living room 5 mins and he’s asleep.

Sling indoors? When DS was 3-4 months old, almost all daytime naps were in the sling. I walked for miles, or paced around the garden. Sometimes he would drop off in the house but mostly not.

I do not miss those times. 10 weeks is peak sleep regression, though - it should get easier in a couple of weeks!

Do you try and get him to sleep before he gets overtired?

At that age my dd slept, then played then fed and repeat, however my friend does sleep, feed, play and repeat.

I do try and get him to sleep before he gets too tired @Lazypuppy but he just starts fighting instantly 😫
I've tried pram indoors @Caspianberg and he won't do that either! 😭
I don't like slings @DisgruntledPelican and I haven't got one. I try and get stuff done when he's asleep so I don't want him in a sling attached to me. You can imagine how chaotic my house is given that he doesn't really sleep! 🤪🤪🤪
Shoot me now! 😫

I try and get stuff done when he's asleep so I don't want him in a sling attached to me. You can imagine how chaotic my house is given that he doesn't really sleep! 🤪🤪🤪

My house was a tip at that stage (still is, really...) I completely empathise!

Aside from the sling, what I did at that stage was try for quite a strict routine. It was back in April, so peak lockdown, we were going nowhere and seeing no one, so I had plenty of time for experimenting. I used the Huckleberry app and put DS down for a nap after two hours of awake time, consistently. Like @Lazypuppy I didn’t feed on waking, but had playtime for a while before feeding then another nap. The only times it went a bit awry were early naps when DP was banging about getting ready for work, and late-in-the-day naps because I was trying to establish a good bedtime routine too and a 4.30pm nap wasn’t ideal if it was longer than half an hour. Give it a go for a few days and see how you get on?

Also by about 4 months, when they’re sitting up a bit better in the bouncy chair, they can watch you do housework. DS got carted everywhere to keep an eye on me as I did the laundry, dishwasher and cooking!

OP what is your routine? In terms of play/sleep/feed, are you trying to get him to sleep after feeding or after playing? Whichever you are trying, swap to something different and see if that works. You may just have to stick with pushchair for a couple of weeks so he at least naps. I never did a sling either, i was same as you and din't want her attached to me.

I used to put my dd in a swing chair, turn the vibrations and music on as well and let her whinge until she fell asleep. The hoover noise used to help as well

This is pretty normal. I think you may need to suck it up and get over your sling hatred, or just put up with the situation as it is until he grows out of this phase, which for us was 6m.

As for being concerned that your baby will get "too attached" to you if you use a sling to hold him close and let him get the sleep he needs... not sure what to say to that to be honest! He's a baby. Read up on the 4th trimester, put your preconceptions aside and give him what he needs.

Your ten week old baby is supposed to be attached to you. It’s a good thing not something to avoid.

You need to get over the sling hatred. He will fall asleep so easily and you can get stuff done. He's only 12 weeks old and the lack of day time sleep is likely to be causing issues so you need to get over the sling hatred it's foolish to think like that

@Hiphopopotamus

Your ten week old baby is supposed to be attached to you. It’s a good thing not something to avoid.

Completely agree

Thank you ladies. I appreciate your feedback. DS usually feeds, then he goes in his chair or swing chair and we play and then he naps, or at least that's when he is supposed to nap! 🤪 that way he wakes about 20 minutes before his feed so gives him chance to wake up, nappy change and then bottle.
I think the sleep regression thing may be right, as the above is what he's been doing for a while, but the last week or so he's decided he doesn't want to nap! 😬
As I type this he's asleep! He didn't sleep between his last 3 feeds, other than the 45 minute walk I had with the dog, but woke half way through that too the little tinker!
His last feed was at 3pm and he passed out half way through! I think exhaustion has got the better of him this afternoon!
I understand the routine won't work all the time, after all, he still only 10 wks. But you get so many people that tell me how their babies were such amazing sleepers and they were sleeping through the night pretty much straight away and can't understand why my baby isn't like theirs and blah blah blah, you just feel horrendously judged and like they are insinuating that you're a shit mom! I'm a FTM so I'm winging it most days!
We are in tier 3 too so no mother and baby groups, no seeing my friends or family members, so other than DH, I'm alone with trying to figure all this out! 😫

Most people who use slings do it in response to a baby who needs a lot of contact in order to sleep/not scream - not so much creating the attachment/dependence, but the dependence being there originally and responding to it.

Babies sleeping through is really such a lottery and absolutely nothing to do with what you are or aren't doing. Try not to see it as a personal failure! It's really not!