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First night in her own room

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thattravelphotographer · 04/12/2020 21:21

Why do I feel so emotional about this?! I've been very laid back about everything so far, yet tonight putting my 4 month old DD to sleep in her own room tonight I find myself feeling so unsettled.

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Thatwentbadly · 04/12/2020 21:28

It could be because it’s against the recommended safe sleep guidelines.

plumpootle · 04/12/2020 21:39

If it feels wrong then I wouldn't do it

Kittykat93 · 04/12/2020 21:40

FYI it should be 6 months :)

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iMatter · 04/12/2020 21:42

Too young. Sorry.

spurs4ever · 04/12/2020 21:43

You'd feel emotional whether it's 4 months or 4 years. She'll be fine but you probably won't sleep

LittleMissLockdown · 04/12/2020 21:43

She should stay with you until at least 6 months minimum. Why the rush at 4 months??

SnowyJungle · 04/12/2020 21:47

4 months is very young and not recommended at all

Pipandmum · 04/12/2020 21:52

Mine stayed in their own room from day one. If you feel it's the right time it is. Take these guidelines for what they are: guidelines (which change).
And do all of you sit in the dark next to your babies when you put them down? Do you go to bed at the same time? If not, and the baby is asleep on their own for a few hours before you go to bed, why is it so bad to have them in their own room for the rest of the night?

dementedpixie · 04/12/2020 21:54

Guidelines are 6 months due to SIDs risk. Mine moved at 6 months and 8 months. I wouldn't have moved them before 6 months

CreamFirstThenJamOnTop · 04/12/2020 21:57

I would also struggle with my feelings putting a 4 month old in their own room.... the recommendation is at least 6 months.

No I didn’t put ds up to bed early and I didn’t go to be early. We put him to sleep in the living room during the evening and then took to him up with us when we went to bed. Did this until he went into his own room at 11 months.

Lindy2 · 04/12/2020 21:58

She's very young to put in her own room. Mine stayed with me until they were 12 months old. I was in no rush to move them out unnecessarily.

Why are you doing this at just 4 months old?

PeacefulInTheDeep · 04/12/2020 22:12

Maybe because she's probably been literally by your side for the last 4 months and it feels odd not to have her close by. It's instinctive.

No judgement from me: the guidelines are recommendations and not rules. You need to do what's best for your family. But I'm curious as to what made you decide to put her in her own room tonight? If you're feeling uneasy about it, is it the best thing to be doing?

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thattravelphotographer · 05/12/2020 06:33

Regretted that post as feel like a school child from most of your replies. Thank you to those who sent a supportive reply and didn't opt to judge my choices.

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niclw · 05/12/2020 07:10

If you feel that the decision is right for you then go for it. My DS went into his own room at 5 months because we were waking each other when moving in our sleep. We were absolutely shattered. Moving DS was the best decision for us and I don't regret it. I was still breastfeeding him during the night was regularly checking on him until I went to bed.

spurs4ever · 05/12/2020 07:55

@thattravelphotographer

Regretted that post as feel like a school child from most of your replies. Thank you to those who sent a supportive reply and didn't opt to judge my choices.

Your baby, your choice. Both of mine were in their own rooms well before 6 months. You don't have to justify your decision to anyone. Hope you managed to get some sleep x

dementedpixie · 05/12/2020 10:57

@thattravelphotographer

Regretted that post as feel like a school child from most of your replies. Thank you to those who sent a supportive reply and didn't opt to judge my choices.

Well maybe you didn't know of the 6 month guideline. Your baby, your choice. I just wouldn't personally have made that choice.

LindaEllen · 05/12/2020 11:27

@thattravelphotographer

Regretted that post as feel like a school child from most of your replies. Thank you to those who sent a supportive reply and didn't opt to judge my choices.

To be honest, if I saw someone doing something that's against guidelines that are put in place for the safety of their baby I would mention it, too, because the baby's safety and life is worth more than the mother's pride.

It's up to you what you do with the information, but for all the previous posters knew, you didn't know about this guidance.

Now, you're armed with that knowledge and can make an informed decision about it.

Surely it's better than nobody mentioning anything, and potentially something happening to a baby?

Timeturnerplease · 06/12/2020 16:49

Those of you who managed to get your 6 month old to sleep downstairs with you in the evenings are clearly better parents than DP and I!

SnuggyBuggy · 06/12/2020 16:53

I'm guessing you have your reasons for doing this so if you're determined to continue I'd focus on them. If not then stop and try again another time.

tobee · 06/12/2020 16:56

Don't forget Mumsnet's not a place for being supportive to parents. It's a place for people to be judge, sneering and look to reinforce their superiority.

Divebar · 06/12/2020 17:01

I would say you’re feeling emotional because you’re geared up to protect her and you’re accustomed to having her close by. No one was sneering but reminding you of the guidance. My DD went into her room at about 5 months I think because she was too big for her bed nest... I probably would have kept her with me longer otherwise.

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