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DS hitting and kicking help!

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Lifestooshort1542 · 03/12/2020 19:48

DS is 3.5 and generally a really good well behaved polite and kind little boy.
I've noticed a difference in his confidence and behaviour since starting Pre school.
He has over the last few weeks started to hit and kick me and his daddy when he is cross or doesn't get his own way.
At first we just played it down and ignored it but this evening he hit me with his flute in a rage because he couldn't have what he wanted and we said no sit and eat your tea please first.
I'm struggling to know how exactly to deal with it, we ended up really shouting at him and even then he didn't really 'listen' he pulls this face when he lashes out like screws his nose up and looks at us to see what reaction he will get.
We took away his toy and said that's what will happen if he does it again but no idea if that's a good thing to do? Is that a good way to get them to listen?
It went on for quite a while this evening and after he finally calmed down he cuddled us both and said 'sorry mummy and daddy for hitting you I won't do it again' then I feel like a shit mum for shouting at him 😭 But then I know he needs to know right from wrong when it comes to kicking and hitting.
Has anyone any advice on how I can deal with this the right way please? Thank you 😊

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timeforanewstart · 03/12/2020 19:56

Time out / naughty step maybe ( not sure if allowed to call naughty step anymore though )

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 03/12/2020 19:57

Unfortunately you made the mistake of ignoring it the first time it happened. I have no idea why parents do this. I see it all the time and generally results in the child then thinking they human hurt other people and other children when they get annoyed and frustrated. Honestly I would remove him from the situation and sit him in another room alone and tell him if he can't stop hurting people, then he can't be with other people.

Wetcappuccino · 03/12/2020 20:04

Phillipa Perry’s book “The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read” is really good on this. Hitting is not on and understandably it is frustrating. But remember he may be struggling with a lot of change at the moment. Good luck Smile

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