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Handhold needed please! Childcare settling in

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Alovelycupoftea88 · 03/12/2020 10:20

Just dropped my 9 month old off at his first settling-in session and need a handhold He cried obviously and I know it’s normal but it still felt awful! I’m picking him up in a couple of hours so it’s not long but I’m sad that because of Covid I’m not able to go in to the setting with him. Please share your positive stories if you have them!

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ReadySteadyBed · 03/12/2020 10:29

I sent my DD in (at her old nursery back in 2018) and left her there, i went for the two hours settling in. I agreed with them it was the best approach and she was fine. I did sit outside for about ten mins before driving off though :-)

He might be upset at first but I honestly believe nursery is soooo good for them, especially going early on. Eventually they go to school and you want that to be a breeze. My DD is 3.5 now and she adores nursery, playing with other children is so good for them, lockdown was awful for that. She was so so so happy her first day back, she said ‘it was the best day ever’.

How many days is he doing? Are you going back to work soon too? Work is such a good distraction for mummy :-)

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Alovelycupoftea88 · 03/12/2020 10:34

Aaah thank you, it’s so good to hear a positive story! Glad your LO has such a great time. I’ve chosen a childminder who seems really competent and has a lovely setting. I’m sure he’ll enjoy it there in due course, it’s just these initial sessions that could be tricky!

I’m going back 4 days a week (would love it to be less but can’t happen) and have four more sessions after this one. I’m hoping I can gradually increase the time so that the full day doesn’t come as too much of a shock!

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Cheesewine · 03/12/2020 10:40

Let me know how it goes! My 6month old is going to get childminder for her first settling in next week. Dreading it !

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Alovelycupoftea88 · 03/12/2020 12:46

It actually went quite well! He cried when he saw me again but had been playing really well so I feel much better about it now.

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wimbler · 03/12/2020 12:54

my daughter cried on drop off and pick up for about week's worth of sessions (didn't go in every day) It wasn't long before she was off without a backwards glance. I honestly think it's harder for us than it is for them. I enjoy work but I do miss her so much

ZooKeeper19 · 03/12/2020 14:38

@Alovelycupoftea88 oh poor you. When I left my lo with his nanny the 1st day (1 hour!) he came back heaving with cries and he sobbed himself to sleep (not even his nap time!). He cried from sleep. He was inconsolable.

Fast forward a week - happy baby. Fast forward a month - running to his nanny not a single glance back to me.

It is terrible, and I felt like an utter failure but he adjusted so well.

Do not worry, your LO will be just the same and will get used to al the fun. Also my mental health and life in general got so much better having him away for a few hours, I am more relaxed, and my time when with him is much better quality.

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