Baby not sitting up or rolling over 8 months

[Swansee]

Hi mums I'm hoping for some of your insight.
My baby is 8 months old next week but she is still not sitting up independently nor is she rolling over. I wasnt very diligent about doing tummy time with her and now im paranoid that she's developmentally behind because of it.
My next door neighbour has a baby 8 wks after me and that baby was sitting up and rolling over from 5 months and she's now crawling.
Everytime I see a social media post with a pic or video of a baby meeting milestones it gives me a sick stomach that my baby is not there yet. I know all babies develop differently but have you ever had experience of a baby to be late sitting up and rolling over and still be fine?

please don't worry, as all babies really are different. Tummy time is great, but some babies hate it and it doesn't hinder them developmentally.

She could have something, or she could be within guidelines, it is actually hard to tell, expecially over the internet.

I would ask to see your HV and ask them to check her over, to put your mind at rest. I know appointments are hard to get at the moment, but even a telephone consultation should put your mind at rest

My second baby was like this (eventually did it at almost 9 months) and in hindsight I think it was due to him being on the large side (so having alot of weight to haul around to roll) and also having reflux so hating tummy time. My first was much quicker, sitting and rolling at 6 months, but was about a third of the size.
If your baby is otherwise developing and interacting normally I really wouldn’t worry OP

Don’t worry , my eldest sister apparently didn’t move or do anything until she was about 10 months old and she’s perfectly normal . Also you do need to keep in mind that years ago nobody said to new mums about tummy time etc and we and indeed our babies on the whole turned out fine . When I had my first you started weaning at 12 weeks and they survived unijured .

Sorry should just clarify that I’m not recommending early weaning just pointing out that advice and recommendations change quite rapidly and people still survived being raised with the recommendations that were in place .

Do you help her sit up and hold her legs down so she can keep her balance? My baby was lazy and hated tummy time.. I actively spent time trying to get him to sit up and it worked quite quickly. I’m sure he would have stayed lying down until a year old if I hadn’t of.

I worried because I though babies should sit around the 6mth mark and it took my baby until he was 9mths. He also crawled and walked late, but at 2 he now runs everywhere. Try not to worry.

My dd1 was like this. We think she has hypermobility and maybe low muscle tone. She was very bendy as a baby and still is now age 8. Can make handwriting and motor skills harder which it has in her case. Or it could be nothing and your baby takes a little longer and all is fine. Try not to worry and just enjoy your little one- they are all so unique and wonderful at that age xx

DD couldn't sit up unaided until 11months. A month later was walking and is now running everywhere at 18months

Thanks for all your kind comments. Im going to try to be less anxious about it I'm sure she'll get there in her own time.

It's frustrating because im a FTM and find myself comparing everything with the girl next door. I see her out walking her 2 dogs with the stroller every morning and it makes me feel like a bad mum because me and baby are still in pjs.

Well, I am glad my 3 babies were not all babies at the same time, as they wer elike chalk and cheese, feeding, sleeping, sitting, speaking, etc etc.

All seem to be OK now!

Comparison really is the thief of joy.
Your late sitter may be a real observer of the world. Their early walker may be the nightmare toddler that you spend all your life chasing.

I also wouldn't worry (although I did at the time!). Mine rolled back to front for first time just before 9 months, only reliably sat up at 10 months (could do it a bit before but would topple over) and started crawling properly at 11 months. Walked at 13 months, now running and climbing everywhere at 15 months. Also hated tummy time so we didn't bother forcing it which probably slowed him down, but he caught up pretty quickly once he got going.

Mine's 8 months old this week and is only now (like, in the last week) mustering himself to consider sitting up independently as worthy of his attention. He's really lazy and couldn't be bothered before, essentially. He usually just topples like a felled tree.

He does roll, but mainly that's because he's always slept on his side so he started rolling onto his front ridiculously early... but then took months to learn to roll back the other way. He just used to get stuck, like a sort of reverse turtle, and then make creaking noises until I came and flipped him. Whereupon he'd roll back onto his front and creak again.

He's nowhere near crawling - he doesn't bother to hold himself up on his arms at all; he's too busy grabbing everything and stuffing it in his mouth. (Except food. He hates food.) At best, he'll maybe manage a commando crawl at some point soon, but the whole hands-and-knees thing, no way.

At the end of the day, they're all different. I bet there are other things your baby does that your neighbors' hasn't figured out, just maybe less flashy things than crawling!

DD1 didn’t sit until she was 12 months old. Flat out refused and would pretty much plank to avoid it! Perfectly developmentally normal now she’s 2.5, in fact was in the top categories on her recent HV checks (however valuable that info is!) your little one will get there, honestly, even if it seems like they never will 🙈

@Swansee

Hi mums I'm hoping for some of your insight. My baby is 8 months old next week but she is still not sitting up independently nor is she rolling over. I wasnt very diligent about doing tummy time with her and now im paranoid that she's developmentally behind because of it. My next door neighbour has a baby 8 wks after me and that baby was sitting up and rolling over from 5 months and she's now crawling. Everytime I see a social media post with a pic or video of a baby meeting milestones it gives me a sick stomach that my baby is not there yet. I know all babies develop differently but have you ever had experience of a baby to be late sitting up and rolling over and still be fine?

Don't pressure yourself, my twins hated tummy time so I really struggled they're 9 months now and only just crawling. Where as I know people with kids the same age who are walking, I stressed for awhile but that won't help them or you.

Speak with your gp, gross motor delays are important to be noted. Speaking from experience of SEN with my own child.

My son did not roll until 10 months, crawled at 15 months and only started walking this June at a whopping great 26 months , just a lazy baby I guess!

I would contact your HV for a check up just for your peace of mind.

Mine sat up at 5 months, crawled at 7 and is standing at 9. We barely did any tummy time at all so don’t even worry about that!

I was always worried when I saw other babies hitting milestones but mine always followed eventually.

Speak to the HV for reassurance.

@Swansee how is ur baby now