Please tell me your bedtime routines for 1,5 and 8 year old

[Cawillmay]

I am going slowly crazy...been happening all year, as I’m sure is the case for most! Bedtime is going to finish me off though. Please tell me how you do it with 3 at these ages. The little one goes down fine, the older two really don’t and wake her up most nights-not intentionally, they just find it impossible to be quiet.
Please share your routines and tips to get it working

What’s the bedroom situation? How many adults to endure the ordeal?

We got the little one to sleep in one room on her own, waited 1/2 hour then had two adults to police the bigger ones (who are in a room together) to keep them quiet enough with constant shushing not to wake dc3.
It was very labour intensive but dc3 got into the toddler years and sleeps more deeply so it’s less of a nightmare now.

Thanks for replying @AgileAsAGoat
They have their own bedrooms and my husband usually does the older two while I’m dealing with baba. Yeah 2 adults on the older 2 might make more sense. Was your thinking in waiting the half hour that the little one would be in a deeper sleep and harder to wake them?

Only got 2 here- a 5 year old and 9 month old. So may be unhelpful as I’m guessing your eldest stays up later but even so.

After tea I take them up around 645 ish and bath the baby whilst 5 yr old plays as he showers straight after school. We do reading book and then stories all in 5 year olds bed. Then I say night to him and tuck him in around 7.30ish, reminding him not to shout me whilst baby is going to sleep and I’ll come and check on him when he’s down. I then give baby his bottle and put him to bed- usually 8ish by then. Nip back in on eldest who is sometimes asleep and other times has stayed awake waiting for me. Give him another snug and say night. I’d imagine it’s much harder with 2 older ones as they will talk/ play with each other.

I got cheap little MP3s for my older DC, which I loaded with Disney piano music and audio books. DC can put the earbuds in when they get into bed and they fall asleep listening. It stops them talking because they’re each plugged in and listening to different stories.

Yes, about 20-30 mins meant the little one was more asleep and much less likely to wake up.
The one parent each was better for keeping them quiet and also a nice way to carve some 1:1 time for older ones. They really valued that.
Downsides were the little one getting up even earlier and also it was quite parenting - intensive.
Was not forever tho- Littlest is 3 and now we do what you do and put her to bed during the big elephant stampede and it’s fine now, she just toddler- crashes out despite the noise. Probably we made the change around her age 2 y or 2.5y - we alternate putting the big ones to bed now and one of us has a Quiet Sit.

I have an almost 1 year old, 7 and 8 year old. The baby goes down first at 6pm I take her up, breastfeed her, read and put her to bed by 6:30pm. The other two are playing quietly or watching tv while I do this. After, baby is in bed I usually eat dinner and then help the older two with some homework. Then the kids take bath or shower separately. I have a white noise machine in the baby room because she used to wake so easily. The white noise machine helps. We also have a dog that barks when someone is outside or at the door...so this white noise machine helps a lot. 8pm, take my 7 year old to his room and he reads to me, I read to him. Then put music on and lights out for 10 minutes before he goes to bed and he lies there listening to it.

I think go to my dd and have a chat w her and she does reading for an hour before her bed. I wish she would go to bed 8:30pm as well, but unfortunately we struggle to get her to bed early...she has always been the night owl type...Lights out for her 9:30pm. I need to try for 9pm, but whenever I do that she just keeps not sleeping until later, coming out etc.

Thank you all for your replies. Tonight is going better thanks to your advice. I put the baby down at 7 while the older 2 watched tv and my husband tidied up. When I came down we did one on one reading, stories and teeth brushing then brought the older two up. My 5 year old is being loud In her room now but I’m hoping the baby is deep enough in sleep that it won’t wake her🤞
Thanks again🙏

@shEllygwaq maybe he has explosive diarrhoea because you are reading him monstourous books like sex and the city or maybe it’s because you are feeding a 8 YEAR OLD breast milk, my 8 year old is eating full meals. I’m not trying to be rude but I think you need some child support, I showed my dh this post and he was in fits of laughter I can hear him laughing now. Back to the subject of breast milk it’s bad enough giving a 8 year old breast milk, but why are you getting it from Bethany he could get some serious deasie if your not careful. As I like to say “treat others as you would want to be treated” in the future when your old and wrinkly in a care home i don’t think you would want to be fed breast milk from his good freind sally would you? 🍼🥛😡😤

Very irresponsible if you ask me! not an age appropriate book i would reconsider your parenting methods if your after some book recommendations i would recommend pride and predjudice, or maybe little women! And maybe its the breast milk thats causing the explosive diarreah? breast milk is definitely not appropriate for that age! x

@Car0loveskids if your not careful little missy I may have to report this comment, the amount of swear words you are using is awful I just learned two more from that message. Your a bad example to all parents A DISCRASE the moral to this message is “think before you say (or in this case type) “ 🤔😕

@shEllygwaq close your muzzle for a min win Shelly by the sea, I need some peace and quiet I’ve had enough of your fat face getting in mine the moral to that is “don’t get in someone’s face or they will get in yours” in my opini winni you are the one needin to quiet

Eh?? What’s going on Ted? I’ve missed all the comments from @shEllygwaq from that fact though I’m guessing they weren’t full of magic bedtime routines!?

So we have a 1 year old and an 8 year old. At 6.30 the 8 year old gets into pyjamas and comes back down. He gets a bit of tech for half an hour while we bath and put the baba down.
After baby is down we play a card game or something and at 7.30 / 7.45 he does his teeth and goes to the bathroom in the downstairs toilet. He then quietly goes up and reads untill 8 then one of us goes to do lights out and a kiss goodnight.
He used to be terrible for waking up the baby but this routine works for us.

I'm also intrigued as to what happened some of the glimpses form the replies are pretty entertaining

I would love to know what went down on this thread last night!