Two weeks into potty training and constant accidents - anyone else?

[AuntVictoria]

Potty training DS, who is 2.5, and finding things really tricky. I'm following the Oh Crap method and much to my surprise DS got it immediately with no trousers on. However, add trousers and DS just wets through them. We had a couple of accident free days and then yesterday I had to change his trousers 3 times in the park - not easy with 3 month old DD in the sling! We go out every day but it's stopping me enjoying our trips out and I'm really worried about returning to soft play and groups next week. Any tips, hints or sympathy gratefully received!

I followed oh crap, in addition I stopped asking my LO if she needed the loo, I just told her she was going.
If going to the park, at home just say “let’s do a wee and once done we can go”...no time pressure, if he doesn’t do anything delay until he does and then go out. Depending on how far the location you are going to is, on arrival “right we are going to the loo” - if Location close by just keep an eye on the time (you may have a sense of how long he can hold it for), and then perhaps say an hr or so “right time for a wee”. Also remind him to let you know, look out for grabbing and awkward dancing that indicates needing to wee.
Ignore the “I don’t need to go”’s and always say “well we should try”...no pressure.
It gets easier!

We actually tried with DS when he was 2.5 and it wasn't working out so we waited 3 months and tried again and he was potty trained in a couple of days. Could be that your DC just isn't ready yet?

If it’s only been 2 weeks then I’d go back a step if you think he’s doing well at home. My DD did great being naked a home, but as soon as she had pants and trousers on she’d wet herself. Home or out.

Also loose fitting trousers, like pj bottoms and no underwear worked and then after a few weeks we moved to underwear. They aren’t good at telling you they need to go when they’re distracted, so I had to make her pee at intervals at the park. And also take spare clothes. Probably took 6 weeks to get from naked to normal clothes and reliable enough to not stress me every time we left the house.

For us it was lockdown in the summer though so I had plenty of time and no where to go.

I was always told if they aren't getting it to give up, wait a while and try again. My oldest was just about to go I to nursery before it worked and it took 2 days.

My son was the same. After about 2 weeks He used the potty fine at home but would nearly always have an accident when out. Id say it took around another month before he understood he needs to tell me he needs a wee and can hold it until we get somewhere. Id say just bear with it but don't give a drink an hour before you go out and make sure he has a wee first.

Another one for stopping and trying again if necessary. I personally don't like the I crap method. We too started at 2.5. My son found it stressful and resisted the potty so we stopped and started again. Two weeks later I put pull ups on him and started to put him on the potty. He would go on potty and sometimes even asked me himself. I also bought a travel potty. He was weeing in pull ups sometimes twice a day, sometimes more, he was often dry til about 6 pm. We then moved to pants at this stage he was weeing 20 times a day and in his pants he was having more accidents, about 6 a day. So we stopped, decided not to say anything. Put him in pull ups. Occasionally he would ask to go on the toilet. Then we started again and he was weeing 12-15 times a day. An improvement on the 20. We put him in pants and he started to wee about 10 times a day, usually with one accident every day for about two weeks. I was considering stopping, went in mumsbet. Mixed response, some saying crack on and others saying not ready. Then he was weeing about 8 times a day and then suddenly no accidents. But, he was never asking for the toilet, even though he did at the start! So we started stretching it out and not taking him to the potty, he started to dance and then he started to ask. Now he's been dry for about 6-8 weeks now and he is dry at night. Though he does wake me in the night sometimes to go for a wee. He was 2 years and 9 months when he was completely dry. I decided that oh crap method was just that and stressful too. No need for it. Training in pull ups worked well for us and actually gave my little one more confidence than feeling like he'd had accidents all the time! We used choc buttons as a reward for a wee and ice cream for a pooh. 😂

We used shorts as the first step to clothes. So they weren't fitted, so she still felt half naked.

2e also knew by day 2 thqy she needed a wee every 30mins so just went by those timings.

And wee before we left house, when we got to park, before getting back in car and then when we got home

I tried at 2.5 but bit to early, same as you, so I put pull ups on and began again at 3. He was there within a week at 3.

Can't you just put pull ups on at soft play? Baby is only young, she will never be able to stop herself having accident at soft play, and you don't want her to be wet and uncomfortable there. Just relax and put pull ups on and remember praise, praise, praise. .xx

Stop and try again in a month or so. Same here same age, waited till just before 3 and all sorted in literally a few days including going out etc. Makes all the difference.