9 week old reflux and husbands depression

[Daisysandviolets]

Can anyone help offer any advice my gorgeous girl is 9 weeks old and suffers from reflux so is cries in pain most of the day! My husband is suffering from depression so doesn't help at all I might as well be a single mum and I'm only just recovered from emergency c section.

Any advice on reflux, she is breastfed
Any advice on coping with a. Partner with depression?

How well do you burp the baby, how often during what length of feed and physically how do you do it ( ie tap or rub, over shoulder, face down on lap, sitting up on lap)?

Re the husband thing does he do nothing for himself either or is it just helping you he has the issue with? What was the trigger of the depression?

We had the reflux issue with my DS when he was about 4 weeks old for about 3/4 weeks. It was so difficult especially in lockdown so I feel for you! I called the doctor and he prescribed baby gaviscon which worked really well but would make him constipated. So to even them out I would give him the gaviscon and then a little bit of cool boiled water to ease the constipation. After a week or so of doing that it did go! In regards to your husband, I think mine was the same. It was the first lockdown and he just wasn't himself and wasn't entirely helpful but he's much better now he is back at work and off furlough. Did your husband have depression before covid? Could he pick up cycling or going for a walks etc just to clear his head and get some fresh air and hopefully over time will feel better. Hope everything calms down for you soon! Reflux doesn't last forever x

If you are BFing has baby been checked properly for tongue Tie?

As for your DH, it's a very tricky situation. How motivated is he to seek help and to help himself? Has he spoken to the GP yet?

Have you spoken to your gp? We got some omperazole prescribed and it has made a big improvement in my little ones reflux. We have also had an assessment with the infant feeding team to assess our breastfeeding not just looking for tongue tie but my letdown and how she handles it as it's fast and some advice on what feeding positions are good for feeding reflux babies and for fast letdowns

My dh suffered from depression after our ds.2 was born. He spoke to the GP. Took (still takes) St John's wort for low mood (I can tell the day he doesn't take it!). And went on a private course of cbt. If he hadn't have been so proactive then it would have been the end of our marriage, because of how he was towards me and our newborn.